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Remember my alcoholic spouse problems? (karma: 2)
By Dream_chaserPremium member Comments: 25854, member since Thu Jul 26, 2001
On Fri Jul 19, 2013 01:17 PM
Edited by Dream_chaser (11405) on 2013-07-19 13:18:27
Edited by Dream_chaser (11405) on 2013-07-19 14:20:00

Well, since November, when all came to a head, after 38 years of marriage, he is no longer drinking.

He stopped drinking, but then cheated, and I let him have it, my daughter let him have it, my brother in law (his brother) let him have it and if he did not stop, 100 percent, we were all gone.

His cousin, who is a recovering alcoholic, for years, spoke with him, numerous times. Going to AA, did little. He said, "But I LOVE the taste of beer!"

She told him to buy non-alcoholic beer, and he hemmed and hawed, but tried it. Now he drinks it and likes it.

He is happy, I am happy, we are all happy and he is a normal (well, for him), human being.

When everyone told me to leave him, I chose to stay, and fight. We let him know how much we love him but that we cannot be his family, if he puts the beer first.

He says, and I hope he means it, that he is happy with this. We never fight and when we do disagree, it never escalates.

Thanks, for all of the advice.

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re: Remember my alcholic spouse problems?
By Dream_chaserPremium member Comments: 25854, member since Thu Jul 26, 2001
On Fri Jul 19, 2013 01:18 PM
Edited by Dream_chaser (11405) on 2013-07-19 13:19:07
And for the support.
re: Remember my alcoholic spouse problems? (karma: 1)
By LlamaLlamaDuckmember has saluted, click to view salute photosPremium member Comments: 7765, member since Sun Nov 21, 2004
On Fri Jul 19, 2013 02:04 PM
Yay! I'm glad to hear things are going well...

You are such an awesome person you deserve to be with someone awesome!
re: Remember my alcoholic spouse problems? (karma: 1)
By Tansey Comments: 2367, member since Fri Mar 27, 2009
On Fri Jul 19, 2013 06:53 PM
I am so happy for you! What great news! Thanks for letting us know.
re: Remember my alcoholic spouse problems? (karma: 1)
By dancemomtoo Comments: 2643, member since Fri Jan 09, 2004
On Fri Jul 19, 2013 08:42 PM
Thanks for letting us know-what a turn around-congrats to both of us-you should celebrate
re: Remember my alcoholic spouse problems? (karma: 1)
By ChristinePremium member Comments: 6817, member since Wed Feb 04, 2009
On Fri Jul 19, 2013 11:17 PM
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re: Remember my alcoholic spouse problems? (karma: 1)
By hyehokismember has saluted, click to view salute photos Comments: 2233, member since Tue Jul 30, 2002
On Wed Jul 24, 2013 08:38 PM
So glad to hear from you DC. I am glad things are turning around for your hubby. Keep up the support. Men need more than they know.

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re: Remember my alcoholic spouse problems?
By Dream_chaserPremium member Comments: 25854, member since Thu Jul 26, 2001
On Wed Jul 24, 2013 09:11 PM
Thanks to all of you.
re: Remember my alcoholic spouse problems?
By Celebrianmember has saluted, click to view salute photosPremium member Comments: 7921, member since Thu Mar 31, 2005
On Fri Jul 26, 2013 06:35 PM
This made me smile. Thank you for updating us about what's happening.
re: Remember my alcoholic spouse problems?
By Dream_chaserPremium member Comments: 25854, member since Thu Jul 26, 2001
On Sat Jul 27, 2013 08:45 AM
Thanks. He is very happy with the non-alcoholic beer, choice. Before I feared him getting dehydrated, as he drank just coffee, an occasional soda or chocolate milk. Now, he drinks regularly. Ok, it's the NA beer, but if he is happy, and calm, it's great.

Sure, we don't agree, all of the time, but no disagreement escalates, the other day we had a small one, and he apologized. He has never done that, before.

If you have ever dealt with someone with this issue, this is a big deal. Of course, before, we did not have the threat of taking away his daughter and granddaughter, from his life, but it was his wake up call.

I only wish I had the guts to do it when my kids were small. I was just stupid. I wonder, if I had, if my son would be alive, today, because he would not have hung out with a heavy, drinking crowd. If you don't know the story, I will tell that late. Thanks, again. for support.

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