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Do you have a caregiver (Doctor/Dentist) preference?
By Theresamember has saluted, click to view salute photosPremium member Comments: 34891, member since Wed May 22, 2002
On Sun Mar 02, 2014 09:57 PM

I have another one of those "Am I weird because..." type questions. Usually, these are prompted by conversations with my husband, this one was me all on my own!

Do you have a gender preference for your doctor or dentist?

Personally, I prefer male caregivers. It might be my luck, it might even be all in my head, but I just feel like men are better to me then women are.

Just for the example - I went to my male dentist and said I had pain in my tooth. Save for last week when his office was closed, I've literally seen him once a week for the last month, so that he could get my tooth right.

Likewise, I once told a female gynecologist that what she was doing hurt, she told me that I was wrong, and kept doing it.

I got referred to a specialist for this same tooth, and when I found out the doctor was male, I was actually less nervous. Isn't that funny? :P

Now, there's exceptions to everything - I adore the midwife in the OB/GYN section at my doctors office, and she's female, and I saw my cousin for a while when she was in dental school and she's fantastic, but generally, I much prefer my caregivers be male.

Does anyone else have a preference, or am I just that weird?

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re: Do you have a caregiver (Doctor/Dentist) preference?
By YumYumDoughnutPremium member Comments: 8688, member since Sat Jul 10, 2004
On Sun Mar 02, 2014 10:25 PM
Edited by YumYumDoughnut (99333) on 2014-03-02 22:30:10
I prefer male Gynos, doctors, dentists. For some reason I prefer female nurses when they take my blood. It hurts a lot less for whatever reason.

I like females for all beauty related things like facials and nails. For massage, I like their smaller finger pressure better. A male has never been good u less you want deep pressure. I like my massages soft and Swedish style.

That being said, I just take whoever is open.

This isn't a caretaker...but liked my male professors a lot better and got better grades in their classes.
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By majeremember has saluted, click to view salute photosPremium member Comments: 5889, member since Sat Sep 29, 2007
On Sun Mar 02, 2014 10:33 PM
I've only ever been to one dentist my entire life (and one orthodontist). I don't particularly care for him personally, but he is extremely gentle and he doesn't hurt me when he's scrapping and whatnot.

I have a female gyno. I don't think I would be comfortable with a male one.

My optometrist is male. I've never been to a female one.

I don't think I have a preference. But I have had more male doctors than female - not intentionally. Well, the gyno was intentional.
re: Do you have a caregiver (Doctor/Dentist) preference?
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Mon Mar 03, 2014 03:25 AM
I'm quite honestly not fussed.

In my GP clinic, I tend to prefer the male doctors, but that's mainly because I've seen them before and they know me, and I had a bad experience with one of the female doctors. (I went in with whooping cough/pertussis, which she diagnosed as "just a cough, but you might be pregnant so let's do an internal exam." Uh, no..)

For gynaecological issues, I've seen so many different specialists for my bits before and after having M, and had nearly everyone in the Labour and Delivery team look at my "interesting scar" after I had M that it doesn't bother me if they're male or female as long as they listen to me.
My preferred OB is male, but some of the midwives I met were amazing.

For dentistry, I go to a husband-and-wife practice, and they're both fantastic.
re: Do you have a caregiver (Doctor/Dentist) preference?
By SarahdncrPremium member Comments: 635, member since Wed Jul 29, 2009
On Mon Mar 03, 2014 06:03 AM
Edited by Sarahdncr (214611) on 2014-03-03 06:14:21
I'll keep it short.

Dentists - A guy. My present dentist is a guy ( as have been all my previous ones) and my current one is great. I just had a consult with a Periodontist who was a lady, and I didn't care for her much, her attitude was poor, and she had the bedside manner of a post. However also, the dental hygienist I see for cleanings is female and she is very good and very nice.

Regular GP and GYN: I prefer a female.

Specialists (e.g. Ortho): It really does not matter to me. I currently have one of each sex. But most I have seen over the years have been guys.

Optomitrist: Again, it really does not matter to me. For a long time I have had guys, but my current one is female.
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By Meganmember has saluted, click to view salute photosPremium member Comments: 12956, member since Wed Mar 17, 2004
On Mon Mar 03, 2014 10:41 AM
I don't care at all as long as he or she is good at the job.

I've heard people say that male gynos are more gentle, but my current one is a lady and she's super efficient and gentle, so that's fine with me.

I've had both for doctors and dentists and I have never noticed that one gender is different than the other. It's the individual every time, in my experience.

The only time I care is massage therapy. Then I want the biggest person they have (generally a man) because of the bigger hands and deeper pressure. I've had great, competent women too but generally I prefer someone with more weight and stronger muscles behind them.
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By Katja144member has saluted, click to view salute photos Comments: 3223, member since Sat Jul 30, 2005
On Sun Mar 23, 2014 02:32 PM
Doesn't matter to me either way. I've had good and bad experiences with both male and female doctors (I've never had a gynecological exam by a male, but I've heard of male doctors both good and bad, and I've certainly had both good and bad experiences with females, and good/bad non-female-specific experiences with male and female doctors). I prefer a female slightly for gynecological stuff, but I realize it's a silly psychological thing I have (even though I'm not nervous disrobing for male doctors), and there's really no reason for it.

I've also never had a female dentist, but I've had good and bad experiences with males (from a guy who yelled at me for being scared when I was very small, to my current dentist, who is liberal with the lidocaine and gentle on gums the hygienist has just torn up), and male and female hygienists who had varying degrees of "thoroughness" in digging under my gums, friendliness, tendency to lecture, etc. that had nothing to do with their sex and/or gender.

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