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re: Director is being a jerk. I think.
By Nyssasistic



re: Director is being a jerk. I think.
By AlwaysOnStage


re: Director is being a jerk. I think.
By dancin_til_death

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5 Replies to Director is being a jerk. I think.

By Nyssasistic




On Thu Mar 12, 2015 02:13 PM
Have YOU spoken face-to-face with the director about this? That's where you need to start.
re: Director is being a jerk. I think.
By NYSalsera
By NYSalsera
On Thu Mar 12, 2015 03:18 PM
I have an appt. On Monday to speaj with him. I just want to express my feelings and state my case without seeming whiney or emotional or like I'm complaining.

By AlwaysOnStage



On Fri Mar 13, 2015 09:47 PM
I would avoid feelings to start--your feelings are valid, but not the point of a business relationship which this company ultimately is. I would start by asking that you have a dialogue about your position in the company. You can mention that you were surprised that (new person) is going on the trip instead of you, and ask about what you could do to be selected in the future. Talk positive about yourself--that you are excited to move your career up a level and want to know his thoughts on how to get there.
If you focus on feeling betrayed, mad, sad, snubbed, wronged, and on the wrong end of a biased and unprofessional decision, it may further any negative feelings he is harboring and it will drive your own mood down into the ground. Keep in mind that this decision was his to make, regardless of if you think you deserved it. If your goal is to start the trek for higher status in your company, then you have to start from the moment you see him Monday. Behave like the person you'd root for in a movie (kind, humble, hard working, honest, focused).
Chin up -- Monday can be a good step for you to figure out what your next plan of attack is for your career. Let us know how it goes!
If you focus on feeling betrayed, mad, sad, snubbed, wronged, and on the wrong end of a biased and unprofessional decision, it may further any negative feelings he is harboring and it will drive your own mood down into the ground. Keep in mind that this decision was his to make, regardless of if you think you deserved it. If your goal is to start the trek for higher status in your company, then you have to start from the moment you see him Monday. Behave like the person you'd root for in a movie (kind, humble, hard working, honest, focused).
Chin up -- Monday can be a good step for you to figure out what your next plan of attack is for your career. Let us know how it goes!
re: Director is being a jerk. I think.
By NYSalsera
By NYSalsera
On Sat Mar 14, 2015 11:31 AM
That's great advice, thank you so much! I will focus on the positive like you suggested. It's just weird to me that he already booked me for the gig, and without saying anything he put her in last minute. I took off days from work and everything. ..anyway, I will let you know what happens, thanks again for the help!

By dancin_til_death


On Tue Mar 17, 2015 03:15 PM
This meeting may have already occurred however just wanted to say that it was 100% odd. Being cut perhaps was not as odd as the fact that he didn't even have the time to tell you personally. You were owed that at the very least.
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