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re: Boyfriend going through a rough phase, maybe a bit abusive
By foreverlost


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By foreverlost



On Fri Jan 19, 2018 10:08 AM
I'm going to preface my advice by stating that I am not a therapist, only someone with a story and an opinion.
I was in a very similar situation with my ex of 4 years. I have a history of severe anxiety and depression. He was experiencing depression for the first time and was trying to hide it- even though it was clear as day to anybody close to him through his actions and words. I was in a very similar situation as you- the relationship had been great. All of a sudden I was being constantly criticized and couldn't do a thing right- even when I would go out of my way to do special things for him.
It went on like this for months before it got physical. Even after it got physical, it was still my fault. I would get the "i'm sorry you stressed me out to that point."
I'm not saying that this will happen to you. I don't know your boyfriend and every person handles things differently. Just please be careful. It sounds like you are in a very tense and stressful situation. It sounds like verbal abuse in some instances described here. My advice would be to talk to your therapist about your situation. Maybe space yourself from him for a bit- even if you don't fully breakup, just to give him some space to work out whatever is causing his behavior. No person deserves to be ridiculed or told that they are not good enough. What he is saying is not coming from a place of love. I don't want to see you get hurt.
I was in a very similar situation with my ex of 4 years. I have a history of severe anxiety and depression. He was experiencing depression for the first time and was trying to hide it- even though it was clear as day to anybody close to him through his actions and words. I was in a very similar situation as you- the relationship had been great. All of a sudden I was being constantly criticized and couldn't do a thing right- even when I would go out of my way to do special things for him.
It went on like this for months before it got physical. Even after it got physical, it was still my fault. I would get the "i'm sorry you stressed me out to that point."
I'm not saying that this will happen to you. I don't know your boyfriend and every person handles things differently. Just please be careful. It sounds like you are in a very tense and stressful situation. It sounds like verbal abuse in some instances described here. My advice would be to talk to your therapist about your situation. Maybe space yourself from him for a bit- even if you don't fully breakup, just to give him some space to work out whatever is causing his behavior. No person deserves to be ridiculed or told that they are not good enough. What he is saying is not coming from a place of love. I don't want to see you get hurt.
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