21 Replies to How To Beat Bullying!
In the end, I fought fire with fire! I stopped being passive (which was how the situation got out of hand in the first place) and stood up for myself! In one instance I actually asked a girl to her face why she'd make fun of me when she knew I already having trouble settling in? I also made friends with my 'enmys', lending a pen if someone was short and complemeinting and offering advce where needed. The group I actually ended up being a part of were actually the same girls who used to tease me and make fun of the fact I was a dancer. My best friend was actually the first girl who ever started a rumor about me!! Of course this was all young girls sillyness, they've all changed now (we're 17)
I hope no-one else is/was or has to go through any of what ive been through. Please anyone PM me if you need to talk about any of this!
your advice could really help someone, it should be made a sticky
I think that's a great post and would definately be helpful to people who are being bullied and need some support.
A lot of effort obviously went into that, so good for you.
Thank you for this posting! It has helped so many people...including myself.
Everyday is another day to become just that much stronger!
It's obvious that it's a good set of links
I was bullied REALLY heavily when I started high school. Not as often physically as emotionally and verbally, but still absolutely terribly. I was fat, had no self confidence, was a dancer, had no friends, and worked hard in class. Everyone seemed to attack all those things. I ended up depressed and suicidal, because the school wasn't doing anything to help. I even got a hard time from a lot of the teachers. There weren't really many specific people doing it, but it seemed that once a week, EVERYONE would take one little dig, and from there it would just add up. I hid from everyone on a staircase, but they found me. I eventually got through it after a year or so. I built up some confidence and made some friends (even with some of the bullies).
When I got really sick of a girl taunting me, I tipped a nearby bucket of water on her. She screamed and ran off to the bathroom. No need to say she never came near me again.
It really is an experience that involves a lot of personal growth (if its that serious) and I woudln't be the person that I was today without that happening to me.
If anyone ever needs support with bullying, contact me.
I was bullied from ages 10-18, and man, do I STILL feel the effects at 22. I have major validation issues with myself because of it.
I hate life at times
Comment #8201922 deleted
Edited by ilanathedancer (141201) on 2009-05-05 17:22:39
Removed by TheMidlakeMuse (78507) on 2009-05-05 17:33:56 Guess what? You have to actually contribute to the discussion to keep your comments from being deleted. Now you get to start from scratch!
I went to a Catholic school. We were taught "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" and "Love your neighbor as you would love yourself." My classmates were either sleeping when this was taught or they were always absent. We got lined up according to height. I was first until I was a Freshman in high school and if they had done that in high school, I would have also been first. I've never gotten any taller. In fact, I'm probably the same size I was in 6th grade right now. I'm not a little person because my arms and legs are normal size but I am a little person because I am 4'6". I used to be 4'7". I swear in high school I was 4'10 but the year I graduated high school I was babysitting for a friend. She asked my height and I told her 4'10". She measured me with one of those tape measures that carpenters use and it said 4'7". Now there is no way in a few months or almost a year after high school that I shrunk that much. When I went to the doctor about 5 years ago or so and they measured me for height, it said 4'6". I made them do it again because I knew I was 4'7". Nope, 4'6'.
I had terrible bugs bunny teeth in grade school. Kids called me Bucky Beaver. Boys used to run screaming down the hall when they saw me. There were 40 kids in my class back then so there were a lot of kids who hated me. Charlie Brown and getting no valentines? We were supposed to give one to everyone in the class and I did. I might have gotten one or 2 back. Sometimes I got invited to birthday parties but nobody would play with me & they would make fun of me. I hated school. In 4th grade I did so lousy in math and a few other subjects that I stayed back. So now I had a whole new class of kids to make fun of me.
I got braces in grade school so now they called me Tinsel Teeth. I had them for 3 years. I also got glasses in grade school. They didn't like them either but I don't remember what they called me because of them.
In high school there was one girl who hated me and made sure most of the girls in our class hated me too. She either loved you or hated you, there was no in-between. There were 500 kids in my high school class. I had very few friends. I had a nickname in high school and to this day I have no idea where it came from. They called me Blade or Switch Blade. I didn't carry a knife. The only knife I ever used was at home to cut meat. Guys would yell that while I was walking down the hall. The girl who really hated me? She tried to push me down flights of stairs, hurt me in gym class and other things. One year she was in 4 of my classes! I didn't think I could tell a teacher because I didn't think they would do anything. At one point another girl whose knee this girl ruined (probably pushed her because her knee was bleeding) said to this girl "If you tell anybody what happened here, I'll kill you." I think she would have done it too. It didn't help in gym that I was way smaller then her in height and weight & I was kind of flat chested too. Dates in high school? I think I might have had one but maybe I dreamed it. The one guy I liked a lot & let him know which was a mistake, liked me as a friend and didn't want to go to the prom at all, so I never got to go in all 4 years. A bunch of the kids in my middle sisters class liked me & were friends with me as I was only a year ahead of them because of staying back.
In my Junior or Senior year this girl got 4 of her friends and they grabbed my hands and feet and tried to throw me in a pond. She was their but all she did was tell them what to do, she didn't do any of it. I didn't swim very well and this pond was where people threw their bottles and cans so there were probably broken bottles and rusty cans in the bottom. I could have been seriously hurt never mind that I could have drowned. I'm sure the water was over my head. My BFF came over and just gave these girls a look. She was taking Karate & they knew it. They all put me down and just left. I was so grateful to my BFF.
Oaky, I'm out of high school for about 7 or 8 years and I see this girl who hated me in high school. Mind you it's been 7 or 8 years since we've seen each other. We are in our late 20's by now, me especially. If looks could kill, the look she gave me would have done me in. I was scared of her in school. We even rode the bus home together! I wasn't scared of her that day. I was with my mom & my mom saw it & asked about it. We were adults now and should have been passed it. She wasn't.
I never went to my class reunion ever. All of my friends from my class don't live in my town anymore and have never gone as far as I know. Someone I knew who had gone and who I thought was really popular back then said that the clique still hung around and the ones who had their noses in the air back then still did. She said no one talked to her even though she talked to them. She said she would never go again. Why would I want to go?
About 10 years ago or so I saw one of the most popular girls in my class who I think was a cheerleader at a fair with her hubby/boyfriend. I don't know which he was but he was one of the guys who called me Switch Blade or Blade and a few other choice words that I can't say here because they aren't Christian and I'd get in trouble for saying them here. I don't remember her name & maybe I remember his but we graduated in 1973. I was with my sister. They walked past me and after they walked by, we stopped walking for some reason. I turn around and they are both looking at me, talking to one another and pointing at me and laughing! How old are we? My sister says that I am way better then she will ever be because I'm not like that and do you know what, she's right! I am way better then her! I have one thing over all these girls that none of them have and that's how I look. I've seen a bunch of people over the years who I have no idea who they are because they look old. They have to tell me who they are. They all seem to know me though, even the ones who I haven't seen in 20 years or more. Why? According to my ex dance teacher who I went to high school with but didn't became friends with until she was my teacher, the only difference between how I looked in high school and now is a different hairstyle and different glasses. How's that for revenge? Ha!
I also got bullied after high school at some of my jobs. They made fun of my voice and I don't know why. They made fun of me being a virgin and I can't even remember how that subject came up. They made fun of my not drinking and never getting drunk. They wanted to get me drunk. One guy totally bullied me because I wouldn't go out with him on my birthday because I had plans already with my family and I, heaven forbid, didn't cancel my plans because he wanted to go out with me that night. He was such a jerk! To think I liked him! He never asked me again and I was so glad when he quit his job so I didn't have to ever see him ever again.
I've gone on long enough. I'm still alive so none of them made me try to commit suicide & succeed. I'd like to say having a belief in God and the fact that he's my lord & Savior helped. Also, I think I found that they all had some kind of problems in their lives or they wouldn't have been so horrible to me as I was not like that to them. Do I wish to do high school all over again? Yeah, if I could have the kind of high school years my mom did. She was on the committee for her class reunions and she was well liked. Will I ever go to a class reunion? Probably not but I would just like to see all those girls who hated me in one room and look them over. They probably all look really old (at least some of the ones I've seen do) and probably none of them look like they did in high school. Then I would just leave and have them wondering how I still look like I did in high school. Good jeans!
Upgrade to premium membership
Copyright ©1999-2018 XP.COM, LLC. All Rights Reserved.