Can I get pregnant from oral sex/a handjob?

No. Your digestive system and reproductive system are not connected. To prevent the spread of disease (and it makes cleanup quicker), you should use a condom during oral sex or a handjob.

Is outercourse (dry sex) really safer?

Yes. If you keep your clothes on, you cannot transmit an STI or get pregnant. You only risk pregnancy if his uncovered genitals touch your uncovered genitals.

I want to go on birth control for period pain, but I'm afraid my mom will think I'm having sex. What should I do?

Hopefully, your mom knows you well enough to know whether or not you're having sex. A good parent will foster the kind of environment where you won't be afraid to tell her what's going on. Be honest with her. Odds are, she notices how you struggle with your periods. A lot of girls who aren't sexually active are on the Pill for other reasons. If you are truthful and reasonable when you make this request, there shouldn't be any reason to worry.

I had penetrative sex, am I still a virgin?

In the simplest terms, no. Sex is defined as a penis entering a vagina. Virginity is much more complex than that. It entails innocence of body and mind. If you go around performing oral sex every weekend, you are not a virgin. If you have anal sex (some people try to justify this), you are not a virgin. Be you male or female, if you're sexually experienced without penetrative sex, you're not a virgin.

Should we use a condom if I'm on birth control?

Absolutely. If both are used correctly, the odds of pregnancy and transmission of disease are minimal. Birth control on its own is more likely to fail. It's worth it for the extra peace of mind.

My boyfriend/girlfriend wants me to give them oral sex, but I'm not sure. Should I do it?

If it makes you uncomfortable, don't do it. You need to talk to your partner and express your discomfort. Explain to them why you're uncomfortable. A good partner will help you try and work out these problems. If you simply aren't sure of the mechanics, do a little research. There are several reliable sites that will offer advice.

Should I fake an orgasm?

This is a matter of personal preference, but I say no. Then you are making your partner believe they are doing something right when they aren't. Again, you need to communicate. Be as open with them as possible. It may be embarrassing at first, but it's the only way it will be resolved.

My boyfriend/girlfriend told me s/he masturbates. Does this mean something's wrong?

Absolutely not. It's perfectly natural to masturbate, even if you're married. Your partner can't always be available to satisfy you. Research has shown that people in happy, healthy relationships masturbate just as much as singles.

I hope this will help with the basic questions. If you have more specific or detailed questions, feel free to PM me.