I'm betting 99% of you are wrong in your guessing, because she told me who it's about and it's really not that obvious unless you've vented about it like we have. It's the internet people. Toughen up. No names or super obvious details were used.

^Exactly. Plus blogs are a personal outlet for venting. Of course she wrote it 'in the heat of the moment', that's what blogs are for. As already stated, no names were used.

I'm glad you are back Sara. Welcome back

^^ but if you know who its about as well as I do, then yeah its pretty obvious. and fair enough she didnt use names but wow! getting that frustrated about someone you've never even met is a tad weird really.

I've never had that much contact with Sara so I cant say anything about her previous behaviour, but I still think that was prety bad

MOOM

Blogs may be personal, but hers is open to the public for reading. I found the stuff written offensive, and that is without me even knowing who it's about.

Telling someone to have a bath with an electric wire, or saying you wished their mum had aborted them is both wrong and disgusting. She could have vented privately, which I'm sure we have all done at some point. It's when you post it publicly that it becomes wrong.

If people could read my mind I might have gotten bans in my life too (not necessaily on DDN ) lol

I understand some of your frustration and hurt feelings but I think blogging it out is very therapeutic. Its something I am currently dealing with as I don't have many people to talk to and I've kept a lot of very dark emotions trapped inside for nearly a decade. It really helps to get it out. I doubt Sara ever meant for the person it is about to read it. I assume that she knew her friends would read it and offer support. We all get angry at times and we all have different ways of dealing with that anger. It think blogging about it is a much better alternative than physically hurting someone.

I know some of you are hurt, but I see Sara in a more positive light. She has been a great friend to me and helped me many times when I needed someone to lean on. I love you Sara

Just sayin', you don't know what goes on behind closed doors and what any particular member says/does to the other off the boards. I think it was kind of tasteless to even mention her blog...someone wanted some drama. If it was really SO offensive, why even bring it up? You could have just contacted Sara or the mods to take the link down.

And I'm with Tumble...Sara's a great friend.

Tumble, I completely see where you are coming from. I don't know Sara at all, so have no positive things to remind me that she isn't just full of rudeness and vile words. But Sara knew that the link was posted on her profile, and could probably guess that nosy people like me would go on to have a read.

There are ways to vent out every bit of feeling without mentioning the things she did. You do not have to wish someone dead to make yourself feel better. You can spend hours insulting them before you come to THAT extremity.

Anyway, I'm sure she can come on here and explain herself in a perfectly non-rude way.

Edit: I think I was perfectly within my rights to mention the link. She had it on her profile anyway, so I don't see the problem? I realise she is your friend, but you don't always have to condone that kind of behaviour.

There's a difference between venting off DDN and venting and linking to it ON ddn so everybody can see. The link's been taken down. That's not allowed because it's pretty much the same as trashing members on the site, except a bit more underhanded.

Kekoa wrote:

I'm betting 99% of you are wrong in your guessing, because she told me who it's about and it's really not that obvious unless you've vented about it like we have. It's the internet people. Toughen up. No names or super obvious details were used.

Oh puhleeze.

Dani

I'm glad that you are friends and she has been a support to you. thats great as I know from recent posts some of what you have been going through (personally I think you are an amazingly strong person)

I also agree about the blog being a way to release pent up emotion, I just think that if she was going to write about someone on here then she should maybe not put a link to it on her profile page?? then she can just give it to her friends and its not public veiwing??

Like I said I have never had any problems with Sara as a member, but the person in that blog has been a tower of support to me, and a very true friend and it hurts me when people speak like that of my friends. can you see my point??

I just think if it was more private it would be better??

MOOM

Blogging is all well and good but having it on her profile where everyone can read something at that level of rudeness...?

I don't know Sara so I can't comment on anything else and I have absolutely no problem with her personally, just what was written in the blog.

Do you all honestly think she just all of a sudden posted that link to her blog? That link to her blog has been up there for ages, long before that entry was ever posted to her blog. She didn't maliciously post that link for everyone to read that particular entry. Tons of members have links to their blogs in their profiles. She probably didn't even think about it being there when she vented. Come on people, get a clue.

Come on, dude. Just because someone is your friend and they do something mean doesn't mean you have to defend that mean action. You really think this is "venting"? This is high school, mean girl, slam book caliber venting and if she's going to do it, she needs to do it in a place that's not accessible to other DDN members. Who cares if the link was there for a day or a year? I know what's linked on my profile. If you need to vent, do it in PMs or elsewhere.

Dani

Since she was banned from coming on and therefore couldn't edit her profile to add the link, I think everyone was 'clued up' that the link had been there for a while. Sara however, is not stupid, and would have known full well that the link was there for free reading.

Edit: Welcome back Sara. I'm glad to see you seem very remorseful.

OK, this is the last time I respond as I really dont want to get dragged into this anymore.....

I get shes your friend, I repsect that. I get she needed to vent, she did that...although that amount of venting and how graphic she was is a tad disturbing...

I would defend my friends to the end, so I do get where you're coming from...I just wish you could see where we'll all coming from.

what she said was hurtful and nasty...it makes no difference whether she 'meant' for people to see it or not.

I just hope that we can all move on from this epsisode and Sara learns to think before you speak


MOOM

In my own defense, the blog entry in question was written when I was schwasted drunk. Look at the time stamp. It was written at 330 AM. Considering my drunken state, I forgot to set the entry to preferred readers (which essentially makes it private) which is has now been done.

So OOPS my bad. And yes, my blog had nothing to do with my banning so that was complete bad taste to bring it up.

I've never said that I'm peachy keen and all nice. No one does. We all have terrible thoughts about people from time to time, so dont act like youre better than me. I vent them which is healthy. My bad that a vent was viewable because I was intoxicated and forgot to click one button.

Edit:
Oh, and I can guarantee that vent was not unprovoked and that you all are guessing the wrong person and dont know the story. So, get your crap straight, and then you can bash me all you like. But honestly, talking about me makes me infamous. Keep it up, thanks.

It's not as difficult to figure out who she's talking about as some of you seem to think, and the person she's talking about would certainly recognize herself. People can vent all they want, but don't link to it on a public forum where the person in question and people who know her can read it. Like groovytwins said, Sara knew it was there for people to read. I doubt that was a mistake, especially since the link is back on there now.

EDIT: Sara, I posted at the same time as you. I'm glad you have changed it to a more private setting.