Based upon her own admission and other evidence it has been determined that this member has not been truthful when it comes to her claims of a pregnancy and her account status.

Lesson learned.....don't lie...we will eventually figure it out.

"This user has been banned permanently
Ban Reason
TOS Violations"

This is what is showing on her profile.


And, apparently that post about Poodle's babies has been completely taken down. Which is good.. but leaves a big hole.. save of the fact people were discussing it over and over again.


The whole thing was troublesome, traumatic... I was quite upset by all of it....

I didn't know if these horrible things had really happened.. and then, her behavior was completely rude and acidic.


I'm sorry that all this had to happen.. I'm sorry that things had to go to all those extreme lengths...


Did she out and out confess, or, was it just the lack of pictures?


Whatever the situation, I wish her, and the rest of us who were so deeply effected and upset the best healing and soothing thoughts possible.



Taking in deep, cleansing breaths.. for fresh air and new perspectives.


Shadow de Kitty.






Love and hugs to our DDN Mothers.

Thank you Mods.

Ugh, I feel sick. I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt at first, but right now I just can't imagine how someone could do that. Thanks mods for figuring it out.

So she really WAS lying. I didn't think she was being honest, but at the same time I can't imagine someone making up such a horrible and traumatic story that would affect and anger so many people on DDN. Especially because most of you said she was never the type of person to be this way.

Did she say WHY she did it?

Sigh.

Back in November, she contacted me by PM after she had posted anonymously on the Secrets- Confessions thread, saying how scared and freaked out she was to find out she was pregnant. I talked to her for a while, talking about her options, what to do, etc, until she decided to keep the baby.

Fast forward to the thread from a few weeks ago...I wanted to believe her, I did, even though I admit the pictures were sketchy. I went through my own scared-kid-on-her-own pregnancy experience last year, and I shared with her how I felt when I found out, how I told the father, who else I told or didn't tell, how I made my decision, what I decided to do...deeply, deeply personal stuff that only 1 or 2 other people know. It took a lot out of me to talk about those things, but I did it anyway because I thought it was helping another girl who was in the same position.

To find out that she was lying...not just making up stories, but PLOTTING it all out, posting anonymously and talking to me and another member weeks before she posted it on the boards...to say it's disappointing to find out someone could do this is an understatement.

I think my faith in humanity just took a blow...

So she actually admitted to lying? I have to say, I was incredibly impressed with how committed to this lie she was. She'd dug herself in pretty good.

I cannot believe how much effort went into this lie. I don't understand how someone could ever think they would get away with this.

Though I'm not surprised at all that she was lying, I don't even know what to say. She admitted it, then? Wow.

I seriously hope she gets the help she needs. Anyone who would lie about something like that and go so far to "protect" that lie definitely has some issues.

I'm not going to touch the whole story, it's been done a million times.

But thank you MODs for removing the thread entirely. It's rarely done on these boards, but in this case I think this was a fantastic idea. There were some terrible things said in that thread that should never ever grace these boards. It's a terrible shame that people have already been hurt, but at least the thread isn't going to remain as a constant reminder.

My heart aches for the people that were truly hurt and affected by that thread. Please know how much support the rest of DDN is willing to give you and keep reminding yourself that it's the people that care than matter, and screw the rest.

Mindboggling.

I must say that despite all the negativity I'm pleased that Tumblebug's karma was retained. That's the only $0.02 I'll give regarding this subject.

Mark

*high fives Mark*

I agree

^ I agree as well.

It's awful to think that someone would get that caught up in their own make believe world. It just proves that you may be able to BS your way around life but people will always, always catch you out.

Thanks again Mods.

Although I read all the posts on this subject, I decided against posting as I wasn't exactly sure what to say. Like many other people on here I wished to give poodle the benefit of the doubt...I assumed that noone could lie about something that big or upseting.

How wrong we were... I want to add to waht others have said about the upset caused to many memebers on DDN, whether they have gone through a similar situation or simply gave support, advice, time and in some cases there own very personal experiences. I think its given everyone a blow about human decency. i just hope that DDN is able to remain the loving, supportive place that it has always been, and that one persons actions dont taint this site.

I also truly hope that poodle gets the help that she needs, there truly is something wrong with someone who would concoct such a deep and calculating lie. She must have known she would get caught out at some point.

Kudos MODS for removing the post, its hurt too many people and I hope eventually we can all move on

XhugsX to everyone at DDN xxx

MOOOM

I just hope Poodle comes back and sees this. Maybe then she'll know only a small percentage of the damage she caused...and maybe that will give her a reality check to never do anything like it again and get help. I know that if I personally caused so many people so much pain, and got to see the repercussions afterwards, I wouldn't be feeling peachy keen for a very long time afterwards.

I also stayed out of the thread because I figured it was a no-win situation, but I am glad it has finally been resolved.

She admitted it? Well there you go. Then this is the action that needed to be taken.

I still stand by the position that I took, which is to believe someone (or publicly act as if you do), to give benefit of the doubt whenever possible. If we show that we think the best of someone sometimes they will try and live up to it.

Well, I'm glad this fiasco is over and she finally admitted it, but that was horrible, hurtful and wrong in every way possible. I so hope that she reads this though, and realizes that she actually did cause emotional pain to members who I'm sure supported her at one time or another.

I'm glad that the truth finally came out and I hope she learns a lesson from it.

I was highly skeptical from her "it's twins" announcement onwards. I'm very happy you mods figured it out, I just wish her lying and BS hadn't caused so much of the hurt it did.

Wait so that means she did confess she was lying...?

You know I didn't reply to the post because even though it seemed like a very big and obvious lie...I think part of me didn't want to believe someone could do that. I really did feel that she was telling the truth, though I did agree she was being very rude and many of her comments were uncalled for. Ugh, and I did send her a PM... supportive one, because I felt bad. Well now I feel like an idiot. Wow, way to loose some faith in humanity.

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^^ I didn't want to believe it either. But, I just had a bad feeling. Saw that thread going south fast.

kk~

I feel like I completely wasted my time... I sent her so many PMs, actually took the time to think things out and really try to help, and she sent me many as well. I feel so dumb. In retrospect I suppose there were some things I should have picked up on, but I completely missed them because I get overly excited about stuff like babies, even if I don't know the person in real life. I can't believe I actually invested emotion into this.

Can't believe everything you read on the internet, I guess...

^Don't feel bad for being a sweet, caring person. Never feel bad for that . You did a wonderful thing trying to help her out, and it's not your fault that she was taking advantage of you. That's not a poor reflection on you, but a poor reflection on her.

I can't believe anyone would lie about losing children! It's sick.

I've been through the pre term twin thing and it was the worst experience of my life. The outcome was thankfully fantastic but I will always count my blessings for having them here safely. To think some sick person lied about going through a similar situation as myself is just mind boggling. I truely can't begin to imagine what she was thinking. If she even is a she! Who knows.

I hope this never happens again.

Thanks Mods