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re: Sexual Assault FAQ
By CaitDestiny



re: Sexual Assault FAQ
By Maxwell


re: Sexual Assault FAQ
By iDancer518


re: Sexual Assault FAQ
By Maxwell


Sexual harassment is an umbrella term that includes sexual assault. Sexual assault means that there was some kind of contact, whether it be rape, molestation, forcible sodomy, etc. Sexual harassment also includes unwanted advances, voyeurism, exhibitionism, etc.
Abuse is another term for assault/harassment, but it usually implies that the perpetrator and the victim are in some kind of established relationship, usually family.
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By CaitDestiny




On Mon May 04, 2009 03:31 PM
Thank you for posting this. Karma for you.
For as much posts as I've seen around, it seems like sexual assault is more common now then ever.
Again, hopefully this will answer all the questions that need to be answered, and people will learn facts that need to be known aswell.
Maybe even in some cases report.
For as much posts as I've seen around, it seems like sexual assault is more common now then ever.
Again, hopefully this will answer all the questions that need to be answered, and people will learn facts that need to be known aswell.
Maybe even in some cases report.

By Maxwell



On Mon Aug 03, 2009 09:25 AM
So, in the past couple of weeks, I've noticed some stuff along the lines of this subject come up, and I feel there are some things that need to be addressed/re-addressed in more detail.
So, consider this the:
Sexual Assault FAQ, Part Deux
1. I should have been a little more clear about the drunk/high/unconscious thing. If you are drunk, high, unconscious, or otherwise physically unaware of your surrondings and lacking normal human rationality, and a sober person has sex with you, you were raped. When you are d/h/u/etc, you are unable to consent, in the same way that a nine-year-old is unable to consent. You can give a resounding "yes!", but you don't currently have enough rationality to make an informed consent.
I know the above situation has happened to some people and they were not disturbed by it at all-it was just ordinary sex to them. I'm not going to tell anyone how to live their lives, so I'm not saying you have to report it, take it seriously, or act like it was anything but ordinary sex, but, legally, you have the right to file rape charges. And should if you have a desire to.
2. I just wanted to affirm again that No matter what anyone, anywhere tells you, being sexually assaulted is 100% not your fault. It DOES NOT MATTER where you were, what you were drinking, what you were wearing, or how you were acting.
3. I don't see this *too much* on DDN, but seriously, sexual assault jokes are just plain offensive. They aren't okay in certain contexts, they aren't "dark humor" or whatever you want to call it, they are seriously offensive and triggering to survivors. Saying that a test, a competition, whatever was so hard it "raped" you? Triggering. Acting like pedophiles and stalkers for laughs? Triggering. Just some more examples of things you shouldn't do to offend survivors.
So, consider this the:
Sexual Assault FAQ, Part Deux
1. I should have been a little more clear about the drunk/high/unconscious thing. If you are drunk, high, unconscious, or otherwise physically unaware of your surrondings and lacking normal human rationality, and a sober person has sex with you, you were raped. When you are d/h/u/etc, you are unable to consent, in the same way that a nine-year-old is unable to consent. You can give a resounding "yes!", but you don't currently have enough rationality to make an informed consent.
I know the above situation has happened to some people and they were not disturbed by it at all-it was just ordinary sex to them. I'm not going to tell anyone how to live their lives, so I'm not saying you have to report it, take it seriously, or act like it was anything but ordinary sex, but, legally, you have the right to file rape charges. And should if you have a desire to.
2. I just wanted to affirm again that No matter what anyone, anywhere tells you, being sexually assaulted is 100% not your fault. It DOES NOT MATTER where you were, what you were drinking, what you were wearing, or how you were acting.
3. I don't see this *too much* on DDN, but seriously, sexual assault jokes are just plain offensive. They aren't okay in certain contexts, they aren't "dark humor" or whatever you want to call it, they are seriously offensive and triggering to survivors. Saying that a test, a competition, whatever was so hard it "raped" you? Triggering. Acting like pedophiles and stalkers for laughs? Triggering. Just some more examples of things you shouldn't do to offend survivors.
re: Sexual Assault FAQ
By justclog
By justclog

On Tue Aug 25, 2009 09:58 PM
Is there a difference between harassment and assault? also is sexual abuse different from sexual harassment and if so in what ways? Thanks [:-)]

By iDancer518



On Wed Aug 26, 2009 06:48 AM
Thank you. I truly appreciate this post because I have also noticed the rising amount of sexual assault posts on DDN.
This will help a lot of people to better understand what assault is and how to deal with it.
This will help a lot of people to better understand what assault is and how to deal with it.

By Maxwell



On Tue Sep 01, 2009 02:59 PM
Is there a difference between harassment and assault?
Sexual harassment is an umbrella term that includes sexual assault. Sexual assault means that there was some kind of contact, whether it be rape, molestation, forcible sodomy, etc. Sexual harassment also includes unwanted advances, voyeurism, exhibitionism, etc.
is sexual abuse different from sexual harassment and if so in what ways?
Abuse is another term for assault/harassment, but it usually implies that the perpetrator and the victim are in some kind of established relationship, usually family.
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