I have seen a trend lately, many teachers are asking for advice but they are not liking the advice received. Why ask for advice then get upset and call others mean, rude and so on and so forth. It's ridiculous and juvenile, honest advice is not always meant to be sugar coated.

If you don't want to hear something that's not to your liking then don't post the question or problem. You have to be ready for the good, the bad and the ugly.

I just needed to get this off my mind since I have been seeing it somewhat more lately. To the posters don't change how you reply to the post, honesty and professionalism is always expected. And 99.9% of the time received on DDN!

I agree with you. But it's not a majority. Most teachers respond well to advice. Just a few have difficulties with accepting advice. And for some reason they keep returning, and they keep complaining about our advice. I've stopped responding to them. They don't want advice, they just want to vent without discussion, but didn't find that out themselves yet.

Some advice for those who do find it hard to accept advice given here:
If you don't like it, ignore it. Stop reading the rest of the story, do not respond. That is the fastest way to get rid of a message you don't like. The reason why you don't like it doesn't matter to us. Maybe we didn't understand your story well, maybe we missed some details, or maybe we are right but you need more time to accept that emotionally. THAT'S HUMAN. Take the time you need.
If it is important to you (question yourself why) add the information we need to give more suitable advice.

Do not argue, do not get angry, do not be upset.
Because, don't forget: "YOU asked for advice, and we were just HELPFULL." We could have ignored you as well, but we didn't because we cared. Appreciate that. Just say thank you. Even when the advice was lousy to you, you can be thankful for the time and energy we took to help you.

Yes, I have asked here often for help and Yes, some of the advice was not what I was looking for. I have blamed myself for not telling my story right, I took time to think about why the advice wasn't working for me, I have stopped reading and moved on with my life. All of that. And I still keep asking for advice and I still love coming here.

Don't ask what DDN can do for you, but what you can do for DDN. (OMG, that is sooo soggy)

The one thing that I love about ddn is that people give their HONEST opinions. I appreciate all the teachers here for taking time out of their busy schedules to help me out with a problem I am having and I return the favor.

I agree, sometimes you may not get the response you are looking for, but in the end it's still helpful.

very well said, lidwina!

lidwina wrote:

Just a few have difficulties with accepting advice. And for some reason they keep returning, and they keep complaining about our advice. I've stopped responding to them. They don't want advice, they just want to vent without discussion, but didn't find that out themselves yet.

Some advice for those who do find it hard to accept advice given here:
If you don't like it, ignore it. The reason why you don't like it doesn't matter to us.

Do not argue, do not get angry, do not be upset.
Because, don't forget: "YOU asked for advice, and we were just HELPFULL." We could have ignored you as well, but we didn't because we cared. Appreciate that. Just say thank you. Even when the advice was lousy to you, you can be thankful for the time and energy we took to help you.


Don't ask what DDN can do for you, but what you can do for DDN. (OMG, that is sooo soggy)

I don't think I could have said it any better, stop complaining and turn your situation around. Many of us don't realize we have more control of our lives, and situations positive and negative then we think.

Like I always say, positive thoughts provoke positive outcomes.