Ok DDN, I need a vent.

My best friend/fellow teacher is 5 months prego. I have never been prego .

Tonight me and a newer teacher took her adult ballet class. The new teacher was confused about a step, asked if it was a watlz, and said it didn't feel like a waltz, but she hasn't taken ballet in a long time. My prego friend, (who had a new student in there) then starts yelling the steps at us, then walks out of her class, comes back in ends the class.

Me and her walk into the teacher room, where we all normally vent, she proceeds to vent, BUT with the door open and little kids standing right outside the door. The venting was a string on cussing.

Apparently she felt like the new teacher was telling her she was wrong, trying to teacher her new student, and overstepping her bounds. I was right there and it wasn't anything like that.

Are hormones really that bad? That you freak out and go nuts? I probably just ruined my friendship but I had to tell her that she was out of line and inappropriate.

I just feel like you can't use hormones as an excuse. You are still and adult with a mind and responsibilities. My SO kept saying it was her hormones, I say I'm sick of excuses.

My hormones never got that bad and I've done it four times and taught right up to the time I had them twice. Being pregnant is no excuse to loose your professionalism. How would she like it if in a few years time it was her child was standing there listening to that sort of tirade form another adult?

Yes, it can happen but when I would take a class with students, as a teacher, I was always careful in my questions as never to usurp the authority of the teacher in front of students. I would have waited until after the students were gone to ask.

Also, hormones or not, making a fuss in front of students is a big no no.

I think both sides were not thinking in a professional manner as much as they could have.

Did she know the door was open? Perhaps if it is your custom to go into the teacher area and vent - it was just a normal reaction and she just didn't realize the door wasn't shut.

Although yes, we should all act professional in front of the kids - but maybe an outburst like that could show their is more going on then hormaones and class. Maybe she's struggling with something outside of the studio she doesn't feel comfortable expressing and this incident just threw her over the edge.
If its a friendship you want to save - which if she's a coworker I would hope you do for the sake of no studio drama - I would try to dig a little deeper and see if there's anything else she would like to get off her chest and just offer to lend an open friendly ear - With the door closed of course. I know when I was pregnant with my second (which was a surprise) I was feeling overwhelmed and stressed about alot of things I had no one to talk about with, and so little things I could share with someone set me off way more then they should have.

Hi,
I'm currently 5 months pregnant and I am the opposite. I am much more relaxed when I am teaching even though I have a lot of back pain. There are some days when my patience runs low but I bite my tongue and remind myself that even though I am pregnant I am also still a professional and that I have to rephrase my words. I would talk to the teacher and see if there is something else bothering her that could be throwing her hormones/ stress level off balance. As teachers pregnant or not we are setting an example for our students and flipping out and cursing in the open is not setting a good example.

I'm 3.5 months pregnant... so I can't speak to being 5 months pregnant, but every pregnancy is different and I will say from my experience - teaching dance while being pregnant is very frustrating. (For me.)

The hormones are a factor, sure - but my body aches in strange ways, by the end of the night I'm sore and cranky, I'm not in the mood to deal with shenanigans, I'm frustrated because I can't demonstrate the things I want to how I want to... it's just not a fun time. My perspective may be partly because I never wanted to be teaching dance and pregnant at the same time, but that is how things have ended up so I'm working around it. I will say that I find that I have more patience at the beginning of the night and it wears off towards the end of the night... so maybe she experiencing some combination of these things as well.

Just because you're pregnant doesn't mean that you lose your sense of judgment, I don't think I would find myself cursing in front of kids... or well, anyone I worked with for that matter. Regardless of being pregnant. It's just not something I would do, but maybe she was having a bad night, was feeling frustrated or self-conscious, or has worries about this new teacher "taking her place". I don't know, there could be a ton of things going on. I would talk to her about it if you feel the need, and she might even bring it up later on if she looks back and realizes her reaction may have been over the top and fueled by exhaustion or something.