Hi Everyone I hope i can get some advice...
I have been dating this guy a few weeks who i have known for about 5 years. We have been meeting up having a laugh & talk, we have kissed a few times but nothing more. We have told each other how strong our feelings are for one another and we want to be together. He is 34 & i am 23 and he has a 10 year old daughter to his ex girlfriend.
He told me that he will need to tell the ex that he has met somebody else as he wants to move on with his life and be happy. He is worried that if he tells her at the wrong time she will go physco and stop him from seeing his daughter. I am worried that he will never find the right time to tell her and i will be waiting and waiting for him to tell her.
i want to wait for him as i think its fair to give him a chance but i cant wait forever & i dont want to pressure him either.. please help .. thank you xx

First of all, exactly why does he have to tell the ex-girlfriend so soon he's getting with someone? I mean, is he still together with this woman or is he not? That's not really 'need to know' information for her unless you'll be babysitting their child. He can move forward with his life and keep something like this to himself for a short time until you're ready to meet his daughter or something. I know cases where the person didn't tell their ex with the child at all until they'd decided to actually marry the person. (Not that I think that's^ a particularly good idea or anything!) But it has been done.

Also, if he has an agreement of partial or shared custody through the courts he shouldn't have a problem getting to see his daughter at all. If he does not have anything through the courts, encourage him to do so just so when he really starts dating you or anyone else for that matter, he doesn't have to worry about her being a psycho ex and barring him from his daughter or something.

i think the reason he wants to tell her so quick is so the both of us can enjoy being a couple and going places together without being seen by somebody the ex knows. He would rather he told her than it come from somebody else. would he be able to get a court order to see his daughter even though they were never married??
thanks for your help xx

Of course he can. He needs to talk to a lawyer.

I hope you two can get this mess straightened since you seem determined to be with him.

Good luck, kk~