we want to get pregnant and was wondering oh do we have to go to a gay friendly obgyn and schools and neighborhoods etc? How to look for them?

All OBGYNs, schools and neighbourhoods SHOULD be everyone friendly, but alas...

For all those things, it just comes down to looking around and finding the best fit for you.

When it gets to the time to look for schools, for instance, you would visit all the schools in your area and choose the one that best suits your family's needs. Every parent should do research into the school they're planning on sending their child too. If both parents go to visit the school, you'll know pretty quickly whether or not they're going to be welcoming to you.

For OBGYNs, word of mouth is probably the best way to go about finding one. Ask any gay friends you have, and see who they go to. In theory, they should all be gay friendly, because they shouldn't be bringing a personal agenda to work, but you do get the nutcases.

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You don't have to do anything, really. I read some of your old posts, and you and your girlfriend have been together a while. I'm assuming you haven't spent all that time in a neighborhood where you were getting stones thrown at your car as you drove home, right? So a baby wouldn't be that different, right?

As for schools, I'm not sure where it'd come in to play. Other than that like, your baby won't have a dad to make fathers day projects for, there's not really anything there that's that different, right?

I live pretty close to Ann Arbor, Michigan, where the farther away you get from the "blonde hair, blue eyed, husband and wife with 2.5 kids and a dog" ideal, the more welcomed you are. Because it's quite a large college town (4 colleges have campuses in Ann Arbor), unconventional is the new normal. It's terrific!

Pssht. I live in a small town where everyone is up in everyone else's business. There is a little girl who takes ballet at our studio who has two mommies, and no one really turns a hair. When I first learned this, I was really quite surprised (in a good way) that I hadn't heard anyone gossiping about them or making disparaging remarks, and that no one seems to be afraid of them or afraid to let their children play with and be friends with this little girl, who is quite well-adjusted. So if my community can be welcoming and friendly to a different family dynamic, it shouldn't be too hard to find it elsewhere, either.

It helps that these ladies are quite friendly and very much into building a strong sense of community. They recently purchased and renovated a historic building on Main St. and they are starting to offer some community resources like a film club and yoga classes there. They are definitely proving themselves to be an asset to the town's well-being.

Well I'm assuming you go to the gyno regularly, yes? And she/he would obviously know your sexuality, yes? So why not just ask your/your partner's gyno about creating a cute little baby?