My question is basically in the title.

A little back story: When I was growing up I always felt different but couldn't place it until I was older and started having crushes on girls rather than guys. I pushed it aside until after high school and didn't really think about it until I fell for a friend. So about 4 years ago I came out to my friends as gay and then to my mom a year later.

Fast forward to March of this year. I went to a restaurant in my town for Yum Cha/Dim Sum, and there was this waiter there who caught my eye, and I apparently caught his. We started talking when I would go in and after a month or so he asked for my phone number and gave me his. We later traded QQ numbers (QQ is the Chinese version of AIM basically, I use the international version though). We would talk on QQ probably 3-4 times a week and then talk when I'd go to the restaurant for lunch (which would be 2-3 times a week.)Over the period that we had been talking I began to have a crush on him and these feelings grew the more time we spent together.

At the end of November he had to move to Connecticut for another job (basically he left the job at the restaurant near me because he was becoming burned out from working 16 hour days 7 days a week for weeks at a time before having one day off), anyway, we were talking early in December and he started calling me "dear" and "honey" and "laopo" so my curiosity was piqued and I asked him if we were just friends or if there was something more there, and that I had hoped there was something more between us. It was then that he told me that he also had feelings for me that were more than friendship. so we started a relationship.

It will be our 1 month anniversary on Jan 7th, and things are going great. But I'm kind of confused. I've always thought I was gay..before him I've never had these kinds of feelings for a guy in my life. Is sexuality a fluid thing? Or was I just plain wrong about my orientation in the first place? I don't get it at all.

In a word, yes. It can be fluid. If it helps, I have a friend who has gone through basically exactly what you have. She's been with her guy some two years now, but before that she had come out as lesbian years ago. I've heard that women's sexual preferences are often more fluid than men's, but have no way to confirm that so it may be total nonsense.

It's really tough to put a label on this sort of thing. Sexuality is complicated, hard to define and I think it does change sometimes. It doesn't fit in discrete categories the way we would like - more of a continuum than anything else. I don't think you were necessarily wrong about your orientation then - you were attracted to women, so you defined your orientation as such. It's just that categorizing like that doesn't really lend itself to something as dynamic as a person's sexuality.

I think so. While I consider myself bisexual, I have only had serious feelings for one guy and that was last year (no pun intended), while I have always had serious feelings for girls.
There are days when I feel completely gay, which is most of the time. But there are also days where I'm like, "Yeah, guys, they sound okay to date."
So yes, I believe sexuality is fluid. I don't like the whole "you don't need to label yourself" thing, but I think in your situation you would wanna hold off on labeling your sexuality.

Thanks guys, for a little while I thought I was crazy or something. I have never been so over the moon about someone in my life. It just sucks that we are so far apart from each other.