My wife does tap and I do ballet - started late but can't stop, only wish started at 21 - only problem it is a great conversation stopper at parties.Maybe its just peoples attitude here in the UK. IN class I have fantastic friends but lack the confidence to let others know.Anyone else have a husband who enjoys and lives for dance ? (Maybe we should set up another site) Thanks for listening. Will

I don't think I'd be bothered if he danced. I wouldn't expect him to go telling everybody though - because it's so far outside of the "norm" in society, I can see where peoples shock would really grind the conversation to a halt. :/

Hi Will! While he's not my husband (yet!!!! Planning for a September wedding!), my fiance' does ballet. It's actually kind of how we met. He enjoys seeing me dance and I help him with what he's having problems with. We both love it, we don't care what others think. When people question him about doing ballet, he simply says "If I didn't start dancing, I wouldn't have met my fiance, she's a wonderful and talented dancer". That usually shuts them up. Yeah, there is the attitude that male dancers are gay, but seriously, as a guy, wouldn't you enjoy being with beautiful and talented women that share your love of the beautiful art you create? That's what makes a good work atmosphere right? Everyone enjoying something mutual?

Bit of a complicated issue, but I totally understand where you're coming from. I think you might need to expand your circle of friends. At this point in my life, I kinda have the opposite problem. Most of my friends are artists are artists of some kind, so I can talk to them about dance. If I were teaching a dance workshop this weekend, they'd all be very interested and inquisitive. But if I were coding a database front-end this weekend, they couldn't even pretend to be interested. Which I can understand, but I know how frustrating it is when you don't have friends with whom you can discuss your interests. Anyway, my suggestion is to cultivate some friendly relationships with dancers from your studio so you have people to talk to about dance. But you're never going to get your non-dancer friends to be interested in what happened to you in your ballet class. It's just never going to happen.

I think that having a husband who dances is great. My husband did not study ballet but did tap and ballroom, although was pulled into some ballet productions as a partner.

Real men dance!

I agree with Panic, you need to broaden your circle of friends. Most people have cliques of friends who they relate to on certain areas of their life: i.e. work friends, gym friends, social friends, arts friends. If there's a ballet coming to town, I might ask my best friend because even though she's not really into dance, she'd enjoy it enough and more importantly enjoy my dissection and critique of. I wouldn't ask my co-worker from the game store I work at - I know they'd have absolutely no interest whatsoever. On the flip side, I'm not going to talk about the new Dead Space 2 video game with my dance co-workers, they get that glazed look in their eye.

Next time there's a production or opening you're interested int attending, ask some of the people from her tap class and your ballet class to meet up and go see it. Have coffee afterwards. Start to build a relationship with people who have a similar appreciation for the fine arts and can discuss them with you. I'm not saying don't tell your other friends that you dance, but don't expect them to really understand your passion.

While not something that every hubby does, I don't see any problem with it. In the ballet company in which I play in the orchestra, there are quite a number of adult men who are on stage for the Nutcracker. For the most part they are supernumeraries in the Christmas part scene, but they do dance in a couple of set pieces (The Grandfather Dance is one of them.) I understand that for the most part they are really non-dancers, parents of kids in the company, and have about a month of once a week training for the Nutcracker run and have a great time doing this. Many of them are professionals (doctors, lawyers, business owners,) and quite a number of them also put their ads in the program. Dancing can be good for business!) None of these guys is going to be in the ABT or NYCB anytime soon.

I know that my wife thinks nothing of the fact that I am a performer in music. While this is probably not as rare as a spousal ballet dancer, it still isn't a norm by any means.

I have a couple of friends who volunteer as supernumaries with the Washington Opera and some of the ballet companies around here. They don't dance or sing. They hold spears, mill about in crown scenes, and just love being a part of the action and dress up differently.

Jon

I would LOVE a husband who danced, not gonna lie. Wow, that would be awesome as I spent many years being a 'sports widow'. No. Fun.

kk~

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I would LOVE a husband who danced, not gonna lie. Wow, that would be awesome as I spent many years being a 'sports widow'. No. Fun.

kk~

Haha, it's the opposite in our relationship. I'm the one who is into sports. He could care less. LOL.

I love the fact he dances, he helps me stretch and actually knows what to watch for when we practice. So it's nice having someone know about ballet. Plus, he looks really sexy in tights.

My husband does not dance. Not that he won't, he just can't dance. He's said it a million times that his feet won't listen to him. But what he is is a music man. I used to Flamenco to his Spanish guitar. That was very nice.

My wife feels great about it. That is why she married me to begin with and that's why she insisted that we start taking lessons again.

My husband doesn't dance, but he would make a great dancer if he did. Many people assume he's a dancer before they meet him, I'm a ballerina, he's russian, everyone always asks me if I met him dancing in a company...nope met him at a baseball game haha.

He enjoys the ballet and attends with me regularly, he's asked me to teach him how to dance (ballroom) several times, but it never gets anywhere...haha.

Like Panic said, you just need to round out your circle of friends.