Is it a good idea to date someone in your dance class?

My fiance and I take class together. Well, more like we will by the time he comes back. Unless I get moved up. Either way, as long as you can be adults about it and keep your relationship out of class, who cares? You're both adults. That's the way we see it.

I dance with my wife. We met because she was my pas de deux partner. I think it is a great thing to partner a partner because the passion shows through the dance
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If you happen to meet someone you really like why not. But of course if the relationship goes bad be prepared it might be a good idea for one of you to switch classes/studios. But a guy treating a dance class like just a dating service to get a dancer girlfriend is one of the most annoying things...

You'r posting in the adults section, I'd assume you're an adult. In that case, I see nothing wrong with it.

I don't see any problem with it. Do you date someone you met at the gym? At a cooking class? What's the difference?

Any attractive female dancers in their 20's or early 30's in Michigan? I would L-O-V-E to date another dancer!

I'll say yes, but I agree with Elfie. If it doesn't work out, it could create an awkward situation. Your motivation for being in class should be because you love to dance, not pick up girls. But if things happen, it would be pretty neat to be with someone who shares your passion.

I agree with others have mentioned...


I think it is fairly alright as long as the pair remained professional while inclass/stage. If the relationship does go sour, it is important to deal with it reasonably - additionally, you also really do NOT want to put other dancers in the middle of your drama.

And of course, just because it is worth a casual general mention on the side, don't take up dance for the pure reason of picking up someone! 99% of students are not there to be hit on. Their focus is on technique and feeling comfortable in their own skin -to have someone make the moves is bloody annoying and can make anyone feel awkward and unsettled.

If romance happens naturally and it's handled maturely then it is all good! but to use dance like a dating site or a place to have your makeout fest, then that is not right : /

Yes I am asking other adults.
I am over 40.

I took my husband to class once. I will definitely rot in hell for that one. Even though he is pretty active, he darn near tore something trying to do a front split. My teacher stuck him next to me at the barre, and I had to wave him off of some of the more difficult stuff. The upside of it was that he has a real appreciation for how difficult ballet is. The downside is that he now knows how physically fit I actually am, so I can't pretend to be too delicate to do something, like help push a car out of a snowbank!

He also got to meet my regular pas de deux partner (the retired linebacker,) and there are no feelings of jealousy there.

When I was a teenager and into my twenties, a couple of times I dated some guys that I took class with. One guy was a regular partner in school productions. Since I went to an all-girls high school, and wasn't dating anyone, I asked him to our junior prom.

It was a bad idea. We weren't exactly pals in class, and used to do such things as jab and poke each other, call each other names, and generally act like a couple of little kids rumbling in a sandlot when the teacher was looking elsewhere. BTW--he now owns a dancewear store, and is a genius pointe shoe fitter.

Anyways, we went to this junior prom, and at least we didn't start a food fight. When we got out on the dance floor, we decided to show off some moves instead of doing the usual "frog in a blender" stuff of the late 1960's.

I wasn't used to dancing in high heels, and accidentally (I swear!) got him with one. The show was on! He shoved me, I shoved back, and before you knew it we were rumbling on the dance floor! My hair got messed up, his tie got yanked away, and my corsage looked like a serving of cole slaw before a couple of the teachers separated us and called our parents to come pick us up!

So much for that date!

I dated a couple of guys later on as well. Initially, it looked like at least we shared an interest, but since we were auditioning for companies, professional (or I should say, unprofessional) jealousy got into the dynamic. While no fisticuffs were involved, in both relationships which were both short-lived, we ended up not speaking to each other.

One thing that you have to remember in the adult class is that most people are really there to study ballet. It's the last hurrah for most of us, and quite a few people are pretty much caught up in the learning process. They might not like distraction. Additionally, they may already be in committed relationships or married. Since there's little talking in ballet class, you'd have to be pretty observant before you commit a faux pas by asking out a married woman by mistake.

But heck. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you see someone interesting, give it a shot. Just realize that it may not work out.

On your deathbed, are you going to be thankful that you met and loved wonderful people or that you'd taken another ballet class??

I mean recreational ballet may be important to some adults but in the end I don't think it's worth it passing up the chance to be with someone who may turn out to be very important in your life. I agree, don't take ballet to pick up people, but if you happen to meet someone you like, and they are single, then I think it would be a tragedy not to ask them out just because you were afraid that it might not work out and that would affect your ballet class!

Yes, we all go to ballet class to study and improve at ballet and dance, etc. But we should not underestimate the other reasons we go to class --- self-expression, social interaction, participate in a community, etc. These reasons are just as valid as the basic technique.

PerfectFeet wrote:

Any attractive female dancers in their 20's or early 30's in Michigan? I would L-O-V-E to date another dancer!

My fiance thinks i'm attractive. This site is not a dating site. So don't treat it like one. Your reply is pretty creepy. If you want to date another dancer, do it the old fashioned way and don't act like it's a fetish for you. My fiance loves the fact I dance, but it's not the core of our relationship, we have SO MANY interests outside of dance. It's great you want to date another dancer, but here's a hint: relax! If you came up to me with the tone your post conveys, i'd be extremely creeped out.

I went to a SI when I was 16 and had a fling with a boy in a lower level class than me. I was definetly distracted during the program but since we didn't have actual classes together and only had one piece we were in together it didn't really affect the dance side of things too much.

I don't see a problem with it. Just don't let it interfere TOO much with your dancing.

I personally don't get what would be so great about dating another dancer (although from time to time, I would observer dancer-dancer marriages in the company). The dancer you date will have many of the same weak points as you do... not to mention the difficulties that a two-dancer household has in making enough money to raise a family.

greenpumpkin wrote:

I personally don't get what would be so great about dating another dancer (although from time to time, I would observer dancer-dancer marriages in the company). The dancer you date will have many of the same weak points as you do... not to mention the difficulties that a two-dancer household has in making enough money to raise a family.

Uhhhh .....Flexibility and endurance. 'Nuff said.

About the money, my fiance and I own a house, 2 cars, he is a retired firefighter/Paramedic and I am a Barista at Starbucks. We like to think we are doing just fine. Money is sometimes a struggle, but we don't know ANY couple who doesn't struggle with money time to time. We're also paying for our wedding and honeymoon by ourselves.

he is a retired firefighter/Paramedic and I am a Barista at Starbucks.

Oh, that is different. You are a barista, he's a retired firefighter. Neither of you relies on a dance career for your income.

I know a girl whose parents were professional ballet dancers (dancers' careers being so short, they both have different careers now)

If you are both in the same company, you're basically dating a coworker. I do see that you are just taking classes together and not professional dancers... in that case I don't see how this is any different from dating someone who is in your cooking class or something. You're going to 'school' together, don't let it interfere with your learning and you're good to go.

luceroblanco wrote:

On your deathbed, are you going to be thankful that you met and loved wonderful people or that you'd taken another ballet class??

I totally agree with this statement. When I was younger I thought it was taboo to date anyone from work etc but I now think that love should be placed first. So yes, if the chemistry is there, as long as he isn't married, I would for sure.

Yes a am 45 adult..no a 45 year old "kid"new to Ballet.

I met my wife in a ballet class. We dated, got married and have lived happily ever after. I thought it was a great idea. (And now we started taking classes together again).