Wow, I haven't been on DDN for...3 months?

Anyway, is it possible to only have sexual + romantic feelings for women, but have like, emotional feelings for guys? Or is that just a strong platonic feeling?

I have no sexual desire for guys, so I don't even know.

For a few months I've been calling myself gay, and that feels right. But is being gay AND panromantic possible?

Sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy are not the same thing, even though they can often present together. It is perfectly normal to have desire for sexual intimacy with one gender, but want emotional intimacy with both genders, although it is unusual (but not unheard of) to want sexual intimacy with no emotional intimacy from one gender and emotional intimacy with no sexual intimacy from the other.

I haven't heard of 'panromantic', and in general I think it's kind of a useless superfluous or unnecessary label because all (healthy) people do want some deep level of emotional intimacy with others regardless of gender. I understand WHY the term exists, though, because our culture has some uptight ideas of what being a man and a woman should be like, and what feelings should be normal. The complexities of intimacy has been hammered into a simpler form that doesn't do it justice.

Eh. Anyway.

Yes, your feelings are normal and (dare I say) healthy. Call yourself whatever you want to be called.

Oh I didn't mean that I don't have emotional feelings for women haha

Well thank you for your response(:

Of course, I understood that, but I see why my wording confused you. What I meant to say is that wanting emotional connections to both genders is common and healthy, even if you only want sexual intimacy with one gender; this is what applies to you. To cover other scenarios, I think it is much rarer (but not unheard of) to have/want emotional and sexual intimacy being mutually exclusive; wanting one from one gender and the other from the other. I thought it was worth throwing in, in case it's relevant to someone else.