Did anyone actually pick out their own e-ring?
J and I are very close and although we've gone shopping to see what I like and what I don't, he straight up sucks as retaing what I like.

And the clincher to the whole situation, I just took a new job in a jewlery store, and tried on a ring yesterday that was so perfect I almost cried, on top of that I get a 40% discount on EVRYTHING. Yet it doesn't stop there.... the ring I have my eye on was 1800$ and after haggling with my boss, I got her down to 700$, (holy mark up batman), taxes included and a lifetime diamond guarentee.

So anyone have any thought?

Also did anyone pick out their own ring, and if so how did you feel/why/any negative comments come out of it?

More curious, and looking for justification than anything.

Thanks!
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I picked mine out... I still have it even though we aren't together anymore. I still like it, but I know that I'd go for a completely different look if I get engaged again.

I'm not going to trust a man to pick out any kind of jewelry for me. I am definitely going to pick out my own engagement ring (after of course knowing what the budget for one is).

In your situation, I would absolutely go for it! That deal is too good to be true.

While I hope to get the traditional proposal, I would have absolutely no issues picking out my own ring. It's a huge investment and something you'll live with (hopefully) forever, so make sure you both love it.

Get it! What a deal!!

I picked out mine. I was going to be wearing it, I wanted to love it. And I still do after 25 years. Never needed an upgrade, like so many of my acquiantances.

If you think it's too pushy to tell him up front, enlist a girlfriend or mom or sister to help him and have her say definitively "this is the one she wants".

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I never wanted to choose my own. It's a gift, to me it seems wrong to. If I had truly hated the one Tim chose for me, I would either have given him a few pointers and asked him to choose something different, or asked to see the other ones he'd shortlisted. It just doesn't feel right to me.

But this is all about personal opinion - I wouldn't want to know a proposal was coming either, I wouldn't want to have a discussion like "Ok so I'll propose to you within 6 to 8 months". The point is what's ok by you, and if you want to choose your own engagement ring then go for it.

Just please, please, please, don't call it an e-ring *is sick*

My dh knew what type of ring I wanted and when we were on Hols in Dubai he had it picked out for me but I had to see it firsr

We went into a jewelry store just to get some ideas about what I might like, what would look good on me, etc., and I tried on a ring that I instantly fell head-over-heels in love with. I really did not expect that to happen. Like I said, I thought we were just going to get some general ideas about what types of cuts, settings, etc. I would like. But after I tried on that ring, I could not get it out of my head, so I just told Mark that if he could find something similar for a better price elsewhere, go for it, but that that was definitely the style I liked. He did shop around but ultimately ended up buying the original ring. I absolutely love my ring. I'd like to say that I would have loved whatever he had picked, and that's true to an extent because of the thought behind it, but I don't really wear jewelry, so if I'm going to be wearing this for the next 50 years of my life, I'd like for it to be something I LOVE. And I know he loves that I love it, so we're both happy.

We both went out to the antique shops in a place called The Lanes in Brighton near where we used to live in England and I tried on quite a few, we ended up with a 1911 gypsy ring, so yes I chose my own ring.

I don't think it's strange and after 21 years I know he wouldn't have picked that one out, he would have gone for one of the ones I ended up not liking

In your case it sounds like an absolute steal, get him down there and get it sorted!

My husband picked my ring out, and while I love it and its beautiful, its not at all what I would have picked. I didn't want a diamond, but I got a diamond solitaire. He knew I just wanted a simple band, but he said he felt "pressure from society" to give me a diamond.

I did pick and pay for my wedding band though! Staying true to my frugal self, I paid $100 and I love it. It doesn't mean any less to me because I picked it instead of my husband.

In your situation I would totally go for the ring you get at discount. $700 for an engagement ring that you love is too good a deal to pass up.

I picked out mine I wouldve loved absolutely anything my husband picked out (I'm easy to please and I love surprises) but he wanted me to choose it so he could be positive I liked it. We went to one store and picked one out and then they sent it off to be made into my size. When it came time to pick it up from the jewelers, my husband was home on bedrest (hurt his back) so I went to the shop to pick it up. When I got there the girl said "here's your ring, but we just got some brand new rings in a similar style that I think you would really like; would you like to look at them?" I said sure why not and she showed me one that I absolutely fell in love with. I sent a pic of it to my husband and he liked it too, so I went ahead and ordered that one instead lol, without my husband ever seeing it in person!

I did get a surprise proposal on the beach though, so at least I got one surprise lol

I did. My mom offered me my grandmothers ring, which I love, so I jumped at the offer. It was definitely way more than we could afford otherwise.

No, mine was given to me by surprise, as he had even got another of my rings measured on a ring sizer that his dad had so it was a perfect fit and it was fine. Even when I lost it in a burglary, I replaced it with a near enough identical one.

Jim and I spent years looking at rings, and he was all too willing to let me pick my own ring. Then my aunt got a ring, smacked him on the back of the head, and said he needed to propose before I left him. So in the end, my aunt picked out my engagement ring.

I got to pick out my wedding band though. I'm going to have my engagement ring and wedding band put together into one setting though - they don't look good together at all, but I want to be able to wear them both, so I'm going to have them reset so they make more sense to go together.

I picked out my ring! It was the first one I tried on.

I actually proposed to him, it was very much so a spontaneous decision of mine. He never saw it coming Anyway, because I asked him I didn't have a ring right away. He knows my jewelry style very well so I had no doubt in my mind that he could pick it out on his own and I would be happy. But there was something special about going together to pick it out. We both couldn't be happier with our decision.

I think there is nothing wrong with telling him that the ring you have at your store is the one you want. If it's what you really want and it is obviously within budget then I'd say go for it!

I picked out my ring. I didn't want an engagement ring and then a wedding band, just not a ringy-type. I wanted a white gold wedding ring, like my grandma's.

So we went shopping, and went back and forth...and I saw the one in the sale case. Anyhoo- the one I picked looks just like my grandma's wedding ring.

The one he was thinking of cost $1000 more. He kissed me and told me he loved how cheap I am. LOL!

I accidentally picked mine out, like Jonelle. We went to look, to get an idea of what I would like and found one that I absolutely loved. Ended up buying it that day.

My husband chose the ring and I think it's perfect. He couldn't have chosen a better design for me. He chose it three months before he proposed, paid it off, collected it, then was going to wait another six weeks before actually proposing, but changed his mind.

Helen

Hubby wanted me to pick my own ring as he wanted me to like and want to wear the ring.

I picked it out - knew exactly what I wanted. Anything he picked out I HATED!!!!!

So, he got to pick his ring, on the one condition that it was white gold.

Yup, I chose mine. We went looking together, and decided that none of the bands we saw was quite right (either in terms of price, or style, or metal). Then my mom offered to let us set a stone in one of her bands, and that one was perfect. We shopped for a stone together. We were already set on a marquise cut, since it's the same shape as the biological structures I study at work (spindles). So we just went around to different jewelers until we found a stone whose size, shape, and clarity we liked. Marquise cut diamonds are relatively rare-- many jewelers we visited didn't have any in stock, and those who did had stones that were either far too large, small, or very poor quality. So when we found "the" stone, it was pretty clear to both of us that that one was it.

We really went through the whole process as a team, so even though he paid for it, I never felt like I was demanding a gift. And in a sense the contribution was 50/50, as the band came from my mom. We both agreed on a ring budget up front (I expect that if I had been a princess and wanted a larger ring, he would have agreed!). Since we're trying to buy a home together, it was in my interest to be reasonable about the price, as whatever money was spent on the ring would just mean that much less for our down payment.

I kind of chose mine, kind of didn't. My husband got it while we were visiting my family in Australia. We went to an opal mine, and I fell in love with several of the rings there. I said something along the lines of "I don't know if you're going to propose soon, but if you are, those rings are gorgeous and your average diamond solitaire won't ever compare" and left it at that, and we carried on with our holiday. Just over a month later, he proposed with the opal ring that he'd said in the shop he liked best. Apparently my family were all in on getting the ring to him in time before we came home to New Zealand, and the lady in the shop had memorised my ring size so it even fit me perfectly.

I chose mine as well. I saw a setting similar to one i've been drooling over for 5 years online, my fiance just tweaked the setting a bit. I couldn't be happier. I didn't want a solitare or something from a chain store, too cookie cutter and EVERYONE has the same things. I wanted something different. I always get a TON of compliments on how beautiful and unique my ring is. Add the beauty of the ring to my D color, VS2 diamond and you have my absolutely STUNNING ring. What's even better is that it's worth 3x more than what he paid for it. The benefits of using a small, private jeweler vs. a chain store and finding a loose diamond at a pawn shop. I couldn't be happier with my ring or the man who gave it to me.

I picked out and bought my ring.

We were poor and I was in the military and I had the stable income.

I picked mine out. He didn't have a ring when he proposed because it wasn't planned. So we just went together to get it!

Just to conclude this post, although feel free to add, beacause I LOVE the stories

I did not end up getting the ring from my work. J asked me to show him something similar one day when we were at the mall for lunch, and I feel in love with a different ring. I showed him one very similar to the ring at work, so he would have an idea, and pointed out a few others that I liked.

He kind of just picked from the ones that I had shown him, and his choice blew me away