hey all,

ive been having an issue with this big conflict in my life and i just wanted to tell you how ive been feeling on here and see if i can get any advice.. any help would be appreciated!!

so im a little visually impaired,plainly said learning to drive was a struggle for me, despite my disability.. i worked so hard i got my license when i was 20 years old.. i was very proud i wanted it so bad. i even drove with a special person who deals with visually impaired drivers too! so as you can see i worked very hard!

now i am almost goring on 22, i graduate from college this year, and this is one of my biggest worries.. i am trying my hardest at driving (its tough because im at college like half the year.. and when im home for holidays and summer are the only times i get to practice) but even now i still am a little nervous, and idk if its the fact i havn't driven for a lot or sometmes i dont want to drive because of that.my parents arnt letting me drive places by myself becasue for some odd reason
i do find myself improving from now when i started when i was 15 to now..
also i want to mention, when i was 15 i lost vision in one eye from a surgery i had previousy on my eye and went blind.. i got my vision back not not totally completely and that happened when i was in drivers ed!


the thing is too with my driving, i cant see street signs,.. untill im right up to them, so i would def need a gps if i didnt know someplace where i am going.. or i just dont know if ill be one of those drivers where i only drive where i feel comfortable or... i know ppl who drive with worse vision i think.. i dont know why i feel this way


i understand my parents want me to be safe when i drive and that is the reason why they wont let me drive on my own is because i make stupid mistakes and i realize what i do wront its just.. i know they want to protect me and dont want me to get into an accident, hurt myself or someone else. .



When i am at home i try ot be as independt as possible help around the house cuz I know my pareetns wont be here all the time and in the end i will have to reply on myself , but i still feel like there is something wrong with me.. is this a normal stage in my life?

i just feel like i cant enjoy life and i feel so "dependent" if i cant drive...im feeling like any normal sr who is graduating, kinda lost.. i mean i work hard in school and everything and have goals.. but still a feeling of emptiness.. like where will i end up after this? how is my life gonna change? i mean i may end up in a big city where i dont need a care.. i am completely comfortable taking public transportation that way..

but then.. how is that gonna affect my relationship life? if i meet a spouse.. i would think if they really were a great guy and loved me alot they would understand my situation...right?

I am just fusterated!


*I also remember i get alot by my parents..when im driving with them they ask am i feeling more comfortable with driving? the thing is.. i do but not really... i feel lf i get too comfortable i feel something bad is gonna happen..


what should i do? any advice..

i don't know why i am feeling like this.. is this normal?

thanks

erin

From what you've said, it doesn't sound like you should be driving at the moment if i'm honest. How bad is your vision exactly? Could you read a car number plate from 20 metres away? That's the law in my country, if you can't read a license plate from 20 metres away then you need to wear glasses. If you can't do it even with glasses then a learner where I live won't pass their test.

Obviously I don't know you and haven't seen you drive, but I think you need to work out whether your difficulties are ones that can be overcome perhaps with more driving lessons to allow you to refresh your skills and gain confidence, or whether you need to accept that your vision means that you should not drive.

Separate from that are the emotional issues that come with not being independent, I have a disability myself so I know what that feels like. But I think the most important thing to consider is your safety and also the safety of other road users. I know I would much rather be less independent and safe.