I've had three different kinds of "attraction phases" with my boyfriend.

We first met online, and I was immediately attracted to his personality. I had been getting several messages a day on this online dating site, but his message really caught my eye. In retrospect I'm not sure why because there wasn't anything extraordinary about it, but I thought it was very honest and cute, so I looked at his profile. I really liked what I saw on his profile, so we started chatting. We chatted every night for at least 4 hours messenger, and he had an extremely attractive personality.

The first time we met in person, I was blown away at how attracted I was to him. His personality in person was exactly how it was online, which doesn't happen with everyone. Also, his pictures that he had posted on the website didn't really look like him, and I thought he was way more physically attractive in person than in his pictures. We definitely clicked right away, and there was a strong immediate attraction.

When we moved in with each other, I found myself being attracted to him in different ways. I knew we had a great time hanging out, but seeing him every day and being able to be together but live our own lives made me even more attracted to him. Living with someone connects you in more intimate ways because you're sharing everything, cooking for each other, washing your clothes together, waking up next to each other... I'm attracted to him in this sense because we get along so well.

So there you have it. There was instant attraction when we first met both online and in real life, and the longer we are together, I am attracted to him in different ways.

I immediatly thought that he was (an is) incredibly sexy, after a while I found him intriguing, and after our first date I placed him firmly in the friend zone because he was boring to talk to, clearly that didn't last.

Yep... but it was a weird sort of development

I've worked with him for 3 years, and always thought he was a really nice, friendly guy and kinda cute, in a strange sort of way. However most of the three years, I was engaged, so I didn't go anywhere with it.

When I found out he had a girlfriend, I was kinda disappointed because I didn't think she was very pretty, and he could do better. Turns out she was all sorts of crazy, and they broke up not long after.

I then got a bit of a crush on him earlier this year, and spent a fair bit of time talking to him at work, and checking him out at work (I work on registers which is opposite Fruit and Veg where he works, so prime viewing ).

Eventually I went to America for 3 weeks, and when I came back, he apparently had a crush on me, but no one knew. Fast forward to about two months ago, I broke up with my fiance, starting talking to T heaps at work, found out that we had heaps of similar interests and got along really well. He came out to my birthday, I got drunk and kissed him, and the rest is history.

So, I was attracted personality wise straight away, and a little bit physically straight away, but I think most of the physical attraction happened once I was single. My attraction is growing stronger ever day though

Not "attracted to" as much as "kind of surprised by", haha...

We met online, and he'd sent me a picture. I figured he was cute enough, but kind of blew him off as not really being my type.

I saw him in person, and was really surprised, because he was much better looking in person than in his pictures. And that was pretty well the extent of my thoughts on the matter. I wasn't instantly passionatly in love with him, I didn't go "Ok, this is the guy I'm gonna marry", nothin'. "He's way better looking than in his picture", and that was about the end of it.

So, like I said, not "attracted to", as much as "surprised by". Heh.

YES! And it interfered with my good judgment.

He was tall, blond and blue eyed, had a very sexy voice and an easy going way about him.

The physical attraction and WOW factor when my friends met him (they thought he was a Demi-God)blinded me to some of the more important factors in choosing a mate. Maturity, selflessness, open-mindedness,intellectual curiosity,sobriety, and the ability to resist temptation.

On the other hand, he is honest, hardworking, and extremely kind to animals. We were also raised in the same church, which meant something to me at the time. Also, I was 18 and my parents hated him. This is a great draw for a teenager!

Oh well...I guess you can't have everything.

Keep On Dancing*

I would have to say that I wasn't. I first met my boyfriend when I was dating someone else so it is not like I was looking. He was just this random dude who was always at the same coffee bar as me. I would see him in the mosh pits and being silly around the place. I really didn't get to know him too much until the summer that we started dating. We became a couple at the end of August and I think we started the whole casual flirting thing around May or June. At least that is when I remember starting to be attracted to him. I guess it didn't matter that I wasn't attracted to him right away and kind of knew him for a couple years before we started dating. We are going to be celebrating our 7 year anniversary this month.

Yes! We met in a store and I just kind of went "Do I know you from somewhere?" Not really smooth, but it worked! It'll be two years this November.

Nope, not at all
We were 14. He was tall, skinny, and a bit of a geek. I, being 14, had crushes on shallow pretty boys. He found me annoying. We became friends through a mutual friend. He became much more attractive to me as the years wore on. We will be celebrating our 8th anniversary this fall and we will have know each other for 20 years. Holy cow, where did the time go?

I don't remember the first time I met Tim. I probably never actually "met" him - I worked behind a bar so I'll just have served him like I did everybody else. I don't remember first setting eyes on him but I do remember the first time I *noticed* him, if you know what I mean. He'd come into the pub straight from an interview, still in his suit and man shoes/man coat. The other barmaid said words to the effect of "God he looks fit in a suit" so I had a quick look and decided "yes, I think I'll start fancying you now".

Yes, definitely. I remember the first time I ever saw him and I remember exactly how I felt too! Tomorrow is our 2-year wedding anniversary

Yes and no. I was attracted to him, but not in a purely physical way. In fact, until we started going out I considered myself asexual because I would sometimes find men 'cute' but never 'hot'. Still, from the moment I met him I felt an internal compulsion to be near him, to talk to him. Perhaps more spiritual than anything else.

Yup, Hubby is a hottie mchot hot and I definitely fell head over heels for him later that day when he started playing Linkin Park (my favorite band at the time) and I found out that was his favorite band as well. I had a boyfriend at the time and he and my best friend actually started dating very soon after that (due to my prompting, actually), and after we both broke up with our SO's we started talking on a friendly basis. A year and a day after meeting, we went on our first date and the rest is history.

We'll be married 4 years this december and he's still just as much of a hottie (or possibly more) as he was when I first met him

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No definitely no instant attraction! I met him along with a group of his friends in a uni lecture - one who was very flirty and tried to get me talking to both him and my now husband. I had pretty much no interest until we ended up sitting next to each other at uni one day and discovered we went to the same high school 2000km away and that we shared some mutual friends. We stayed as just friends for about 8 months after that. My friends all kept trying to tell me that he had a thing for me but I didn't believe them, and I was going through a phase where I liked someone else and a childhood friend had this huge crush on me and kept trying to make moves... I tried to set him up with one of my best friends, and a week later he asked me out! It was a bit lame, I ended up seeking my two best friends' opinions including the one I tried to set him up with before I actually said yes to him! They just thought I was insane for not getting together with him sooner After that the sparks (that were probably flying all along during our pre-dating friendship that I was completely oblivious to) became pretty obvious!! Apparently he was totally attracted to me right from the start, he was just too shy to make a move sooner

I met my hubby when we were 5years old on the 1st day of Primary school. I can always remember being his "best" friend. Things just developed from there and I am so happy to say that we are now married with 2 beautiful kids.

I met my hubby when we were 5years old on the 1st day of Primary school. I can always remember being his "best" friend. Things just developed from there and I am so happy to say that we are now married with 2 beautiful kids.

Physically: kind of.
Personality : yes.

We met online, and then decided to met up for a drink at a local wine bar. I was really late so he was already sitting there when I came in. The first thing I noticed about him was his hair. I think thats the first thing most people notice. He has dreadlocks so its kind of hard not to. I admit to having some pre-conceptions about dreads, so I was like "nice looking guy, shame about the hair".

Turns out his dreads were put in by a hairdresser and he washes them daily, so they're not dirty hippy dreads like I'd assumed. Shame on me.

The second thing I noticed that I was attracted to was his smile. He has this massive smile that takes over his whole face and once he smiled, I was more attracted to him. Partly because his smile is great, but also partly because it is reflective of his personality; he is warm, funny and very friendly.

I know most girls don't consider this, but he dresses himself amazingly well. That turns me on a bit too, LOL.

I was also super attracted to his arms he was wearing a t-shirt and I could see his arm muscles and his tattoo popping out. I love a set of toned forearms, so I was sold after that

Absolutely. I even remember what he was wearing. Which is completely abnormal for me LOL. That was when I was about 16... we're married now

Kind of hard to answer, because I knew who he was, he was in my classes at college, but we never talked or anything, so I don't remember. But I do remember always noticing him, even though I shouldn't really because we never talked, so I guess the answer is yes! Once we started hanging out I was definitely physically attracted to him right away, but also mentally, he's so smart and I find that super sexy. Plus he's athletic and tall and has gorgeous eyes...he gets more and more handsome every day!

Kind of. We met online. He was a bit of a bigger guy. He used to be almost 300 pound then started playing football and lost a lot of weight (100 and some pounds) and I met him while he was in the middle kind of so he was still a bit chubby. I remember thinking he looked okay. He wasn't like drop dead sexy or anything. He never talked to me much and it was very hard to try to start a conversation with him but there was something else that attracted me to him. I couldn't stop talking to him even though he barely ever said anything I kept trying to talk to him just because *something* was tugging me towards him. ... So eventually we really started talking, talked on the phone for HOURS at night and then a year later started dating...now it's been 4 and a half years and we're still together.

He says that he felt that tug towards me when we first started talking to. It's the weirdest thing. I've honestly never ever felt that tug towards somebody before. But I'm glad I never gave up trying to talk to him.

No because we were both dating other people when we met. He broke up with his girlfriend about a month before I broke up with his roommate for him (yeah, I'm a classy gal. I was dating his roommate ). I've always like tall, awkward boys with dark hair and eyes and he definitely fit that bill. I knew he had a girlfriend so I didn't really do anything about it. As we got to know each other better, I realized I was a lot more into him than I was his roommate.

I was attracted to his personality first and that was they same way with a couple of guys I have dated. The guy I'm with now has been my longest relationship, two years now and I was attracted to him the first day I ever saw him!

Not at all, really. We'd been in the same classes for about two years but barely talked. Then I moved into a house around the corner from him we started to talk on the bus when I actually managed to get out the door on time. I never really thought about him as anything other than friends until two years later. I needed rides home from sports, and he was always around, and we started to get pretty close, but still as friends.
We started carpooling all the time, and then one day he came to pick me up for a concert for band, and I opened the door and saw him there in his tux, and the light was perfect and his eyes were all sparkly and the only thing I could think was "Whoa... Cute..." It's been almost two years since that day.

I had a bit of an attraction to my husband when we first met but it definitely got a lot stronger when we started hanging out more and got to know each other. We have now been happily married for almost three years.

Ive been working up the guts to admit this to my boy, i dont want to hurt his feelings... but at first I hated him. lol.

He was always bugging me, trying to be a smarta** cause his friend liked me. I'd be out at one of the few clubs in town on a saturday night and I'd see him coming towards me and just groan and be like please NO.

Anyway one night I actually had a proper chat with him and he wasnt being a smarta**. Then I realised that maybe he wasnt as bad as I thought. Texting led to meeting up, that lead to sneaking over to his place and then to being a complete couple. 2 and a half years later and now we're living together. Funnny how life works out.