Shame on me....I've had a perfectly horrendous several days with my own family or origin, which seems to remind me of Ginger's situation. Rather than do something productive, like erect gallows, I found a few more Kitty dresses for the wicked sisters.



And


and a nice bouquet to beat them over their heads with, as they seem to be expecting it


I've just been informed that a family member wants my grandsons to lead the happy couple's DOGS down the isle at their wedding, on leashes,as the dogs are untrained and "act like animals" (can you imagine dogs doing such a thing?). If I had the tiniest bit of courage, I'd forward pictures of these Hello dresses to the bride to be. What a nice picture it would make...two dogs chasing a Kitty down the isle in church.

Ginger...take heart...your family isn't the only one that is totally nuts.

xoxo

Keep On Dancing*
s

topphilly wrote:

If you can print out the vicious stuff your sisters wrote, do so and just leave it laying around someplace so your mom can discover it.

Sheer genius. Ginger, can you access the messages again long enough to print a copy? Topphilly is right. Your mom needs to see this. Though rather than leave it around hoping she'll pick it up and read it, I'd say "Mom, you asked why I would ask (fiance's) sister to be in the bridal party and not my sister, and the exchange on this paper is the reason."

Wow. Talk about hurtful. I can understand how upset and hurt you would be. But you know what I would do? I'd prove them wrong. Kill them with kindness.

If you turn around and DON'T invite them, or if you invite them and don't talk to them, you are only giving them fuel for their fire.

I'd invite them as normal. It's their choice then if they show up. If they show up and have a problem with the wedding, it's their own fault for accepting.. no one forced them to go! I would NOT ask them to be part of the wedding party. If your mum pushes for them to be BM's etc, then perhaps explain the issue.

On the day, be polite, be civil, be friendly even. Thank them for coming, tell them it means a lot to have them there. But do not let them rule the day. Focus on the good things - you and your hubby, your friends and guests - the ones who care about you. Be happy, and enjoy your day! Spend the time with those people who love you.

If your sisters are in the corner bitching, it will only show their petty personalities. They will be the ones having a miserable old time wallowing in negativity, while you and the rest of your guests are having a blast. And if they are bitching about the fact you ae uyp there enjoying yourselves and celebrating the fact you have someone who loves you - Screw them, just shows they are jealous and insecure in themselves.

You found someone who loves you as you are, has a lot in common with with and wants to spend the rest of their life with you. Sounds like they're jealous - don't have partners, or are perhaps unhappy in their relationships and/or in themselves perhaps?!

Just my take!

It really hurts to know that those you call family are for you like an enemy. Yes, maybe you are different from them, maybe your perception of life is a little to the HAPPY ENDINGS or maybe you are not as serious with life tough issues as they do. But it doesn't matter, that't why we all are unique, SPECIAL in our own way. If i'm given a chance to choose between serious and easy-going of course i'll choose the latter. Don't loose yourself because they are being them. You are not them, you are loving and easy going, see them as lost and jealous, and like Jesus christ leaving the 99sheeps to save just one, Do thesame invite them regardless of what they have said and how they may still behave in your wedding knowing they are lost and need direction and only way to do that is by love and I know you are capable to do so. Avec amour

Omovudu wrote:

It really hurts to know that those you call family are for you like an enemy. Yes, maybe you are different from them, maybe your perception of life is a little to the HAPPY ENDINGS or maybe you are not as serious with life tough issues as they do. But it doesn't matter, that't why we all are unique, SPECIAL in our own way. If i'm given a chance to choose between serious and easy-going of course i'll choose the latter. Don't loose yourself because they are being them. You are not them, you are loving and easy going, see them as lost and jealous, and like Jesus christ leaving the 99sheeps to save just one, Do thesame invite them regardless of what they have said and how they may still behave in your wedding knowing they are lost and need direction and only way to do that is by love and I know you are capable to do so. Avec amour

Dude, really? Put down the kool-aide. I'm on the verge of un-inviting the people I share DNA with because they've done nothing but whine and complain about the time, what day it's on, where the wedding is, how it's inconvenient for THEM. While the people I don't share DNA with have been nothing but lovely and happy towards my fiance and I. I finally got fed up with my mom the other night and said if it was so inconvenient for them, to please let me know so I can invite one of my friends who actually WANTS to be there instead of feeling obligated. I'm pretty much over everyone's complaining, it's OUR wedding, OUR day, not theirs. Either STFU or don't come is where I'm at right now. We could care less how many people show up, it's OUR wedding, no one else's. It might not be the attitude to have, but I'm so over the petty BS going on with our families. We've told people from the very beginning that the day is about US, not them, so if they don't like any of it, they don't need to show up as we wouldn't care. It's them that would have to deal with missing a beautiful ceremony, not us.

^ Can't say I agree with every word but that was a way weird post. Did madmilt sign up with a new name or something?

Doesn't every family go through this? You don't have to like them. You don't have to listen to them. You certainly don't have to let them be involved in the wedding. But you should definitely invite them. Most of us have relatives we don't like, and for a few days each year we try to just ignore them. That's just part of having a family.

But I'm so sure everyone is giving you a free pass for READING YOUR SISTER'S FACEBOOK MESSAGES!?!?!?! That's a COMPLETE invasion of privacy. Just because your sisters were talking about you, that absolutely does not excuse your behavior. I can't believe people are telling you to gossip further about what you found while snooping through her private messages. And to PRINT IT OUT? That's like printing out her diary or her personal mail, and if anyone ever did that to me, I would kill them. COMPLETELY unacceptable behavior.