Hello DDN lovelies!

In my family it is a tradition to give the groom a gift the day of the wedding (I know a lot of people do this tradition as well), I've thought of the usual things watch (he doesn't wear one ever) Boudoir photos (he would look at it once and then it would porbably sit in the closet for our future children to find), so I was trying to think of something that he would love and keep forever.... and it dawned on me, a firearm (let us not start a debate please). I was thinking some type of handgun would be best.

So here is the part I'm stuck on. His grandfather just passed away, and his grandmother is selling of his guns. I was thinking about buying one for Fiance for a gift, but is that just too strange/awakward/innappropriate? This is an idea that just popped into my head, so I'm not set on it, and have not shared it with anyone.

Does anyone have any thoughts on the idea?

Thanks!
-h

Whatever floats his/your boat... I'm not a big gun fan and don't really believe in having one in the house. But to each their own. If it is something he will appreciate, than go for it.

I got my husband a pocket watch as he also doesn't wear a watch and he loved it!

I'm big into firearms and think it'd be really nice to get an antique firearm for a wedding gift. Perhaps one to put on display? His grandfathers or something new would suffice as well, I'm sure. If he'd like it, why not?

In my family we do watches. But we also do watches for graduation gifts, so by wedding time, we're all very into watch wearing / collecting

I think he'd appreciate it even more, given that it's a family heirloom. It's not my scene, but you're not giving it to me, so I don't have to be in to it.

I got Jim a thing of Crown Royal Black Label. He said all he wanted from the reception was to get to have a Crown and coke, and we didn't pay the extra fee for the bartender so he could, so I got him some Crown. He was really surprised, he said he didn't know they made a black label, so that was fun. And he won't drink it, but he does fancy himself quite the collector, so it works on that level too...

I think any gift is appropriate if it's something he'll cherish. My boyfriend would be thrilled if I gave him a gun for a wedding gift (or any gift for that matter, but I'm not dropping $800 on a gun until I'm Mrs. ). He's a good Southern boy and loves guns. He would definitely use it more than a watch.

I would definitely get in touch with her and see about getting one. I think it's a great idea if it's something he'll love.

Just to make it a little more clear, it's not the gun that I care about, heck he got a gun for his engagement gift, we have an undisclosed amount of firearms in the house, doesn't both me in the least, some are mine.....

I'm just not sure if me giving him something as a gift on our wedding day from his deceased grandfater is weird or not.....

^ Depends on your guy, I don't think a lot of guys would be freaked out. It would be something that would make it stick out over all the other guns that have been given to him, as long as he doesn't have any bad memories of his grandfather and his guns.

If Mark gave me something on our wedding day that had once belonged to either of my dearly departed grandmothers I would cherish it. I would cherish it because it belonged to one of the most important women in my life, and I would cherish it because Mark was thoughtful enough to obtain it (whatever it may be) and give it to me as a token of love.

I personally don't see how giving your fiance something that belonged to his grandfater as a wedding gift could possibly be a bad decision, but that may depend on how recently his grandfather died and how close they were.

Erin.
::righteous babe::

Heirloom firearm? Get it appraised, cleaned and engraved. Mount it on the wall, too.

I gave my husband a plush designer robe because he had never received such a designer item in his life (and he confided in me that he hates watches) and I wanted to be the one to buy it for him.

I think it is a lovely idea. Family treasures are always appropriate as gifts to mark important milestones in life.

My husband would LOVE a gift like this.

Keep On Dancing*

Here's a pic of my wedding gift. It's the gift that keeps on giving.

If your guy is into it, I say go for it! People think my fiance is weird or creepy getting me my Glock 19 as a wedding gift, but he knows I don't really like shooting his .40, so he got me something I'm comfy handling and shooting. I love her, she shoots like a dream and look forward to shooting her more.

I think his grandfather's gun is an AWESOME idea! Especially if he was close to him.

Can I ask and not to sound rude or anything but what is it with you americans and your guns?

Well, you failed cause that was rude.
Shooting is a sport, just like any other. That's like asking someone why they like soccer.

^And the people in this thread and the people who use guns for sport are not using them to kill people. So yeah, it's a pretty logical comparison. Fencing is still a sport and it involves weapons that could kill someone.

Sabres, etc = sport equipment in fencing.
Soccer ball = sport equipment in soccer
Gun = sport equipment for sport shooting/hunting.

How does the analogy not work simply because the equipment is potentially harmful?

To answer the OP's question - I think it's a wonderful and thoughtful gift. Something that is heirloom is way more important to me than something bought from a store. If you're worried about it though have you thought to ask his grandma what she thinks?

You can kill someone with a soccer ball, too, you know. Don't hate on something you simply don't understand.

I'M CANADIAN!

LlamaLlamaDuck wrote:

Can I ask and not to sound rude or anything but what is it with you americans and your guns?

This: "A well regulated Militia, being necessary to the security of a free State, the right of the people to keep and bear Arms, shall not be infringed."

Plus, they're a lot of fun.

Hollie, have you decided on getting him a gun? I loved getting a gun as a wedding gift, it's the gift that keeps giving.

HollieErin - Are any of the guns antiques? Or are they all modern day firearms? While either way I think it's a good idea, I definitely think it's awesome if it's an antique.

Also, this:

Odessa wrote:

I personally don't see how giving your fiance something that belonged to his grandfater as a wedding gift could possibly be a bad decision, but that may depend on how recently his grandfather died and how close they were.

I wasn't necessarily making the assumption that the OP was American, I just knew some of those that responded were.

I don't have an issue with owning an antique firearm that is a family heirloom... I just don't get the need to own a new gun in general.

I agree with Odessa, I know my husband would be delighted if I could give him something that belonged to his grandfather, we both have a huge amount of respect for him and it would be a wonderful link for him to have.

Just remember that even an antique gun should be kept in a gun cabinet or disabled to be put on display. This might seem a bit obvious but I know people who haven't thought of that and got into trouble for it.

hummingbird wrote:

I agree with Odessa, I know my husband would be delighted if I could give him something that belonged to his grandfather, we both have a huge amount of respect for him and it would be a wonderful link for him to have.

Just remember that even an antique gun should be kept in a gun cabinet or disabled to be put on display. This might seem a bit obvious but I know people who haven't thought of that and got into trouble for it.

That depends on the laws where you live. I've seen a ton of antique guns that are legal to carry.

^Pretty sure HollieErin said she was Canadian, as is Hummingbird, so that comment relates to Canadian laws.

Erin.
::righteous babe::

If my husband had given me something that was an heirloom, I would have cherished it. So I agree with Erin as well.

As for me, I bought my husband a guitar.

Helen

I also didn't say that an antique gun could not be used, I said that if it's not properly stored, ie it's left on display then it should be disabled.