So my boyfriend and I have been dating a while and while we were making out last week I gave him a handjob. Apparently, I was really good at it because he climaxed more than once and was too weak in the knees to get up for a few minutes and he told me that it felt really amazing. Both of us are virgins, he is my first boyfriend, and though I'm not his first girlfriend he is also very inexperienced (we are 20 and 21, though that isn't really relevant). Anyway, today making out turned into a handjob again and he fingered me. He wasn't bad by any means, but he didn't quite get me to climax either. I had to show him where to put his fingers a couple of times, but I wasn't sure how to tell him exactly what I wanted. Should I have a conversation with him about it or wait to say something until the next time we do that? He is very sensitive, and I don't want him to think that he is crap at satisfying me or anything, because he isn't. I think he's putting alot of pressure on himself to be good at it, so I'm just worried about hurting his feelings, but I also want to tell him what I like and don't like and I think he will be receptive to it. I'm just not sure how to phrase it or when to bring it up. Any advice?

When I first started dating my boyfriend I was really inexperienced and worried too but I actually liked my bf giving me tips and now sometimes if I have questions and want to know what he really thinks I just ask Communication is everything and while you don't want to hurt his feelings, maybe just say something like "I know we're both new at this whole thing but I want us to be open with each other and let each other know what does or doesn't work for us" and maybe just start with that and see what he says. And you can always let him know that you're not wanting to make him feel bad just want to always be honest from the start Heck, you can even be playful with it too and show him what it is you want Hope that helps!

Yes show him or tell him " this is how I do it". I'm sure he pleasures himself so he should easily understand that and not be offended or hurt.

If you feel it would freak him out during the action, talk to him about it when you're both fully clothed and he's feeling less pressure to perform.

The best way to do it in the least offensive way possible is to FREAK OUT when he does what you like. Trust - he will note that you freaked out. That move will go in the regular rotation.

But it's just like anything - use "I" statements. "I like...", "I feel...", "I think...". Start out with "So hey, it sucks when you...", and he's not gonna do anything. And do NOT laugh at any point in the conversation. That's horrifying for the person on the other end of it.

And as usual, my standard disclaimer - if you're comfortable enough to DO sexual stuff, you're comfortable enough to DISCUSS sexual stuff.