So my boyfriend and I have been dating a while and while we were making out last week I gave him a handjob. Apparently, I was really good at it because he climaxed more than once and was too weak in the knees to get up for a few minutes and he told me that it felt really amazing. Both of us are virgins, he is my first boyfriend, and though I'm not his first girlfriend he is also very inexperienced (we are 20 and 21, though that isn't really relevant). Anyway, today making out turned into a handjob again and he fingered me. He wasn't bad by any means, but he didn't quite get me to climax either. I had to show him where to put his fingers a couple of times, but I wasn't sure how to tell him exactly what I wanted. Should I have a conversation with him about it or wait to say something until the next time we do that? He is very sensitive, and I don't want him to think that he is crap at satisfying me or anything, because he isn't. I think he's putting alot of pressure on himself to be good at it, so I'm just worried about hurting his feelings, but I also want to tell him what I like and don't like and I think he will be receptive to it. I'm just not sure how to phrase it or when to bring it up. Any advice?

...You can climax just from fingering? If so, I envy you.

That said, every couple needs to get used to each other's wants and needs during sex. What's worked for me is just be truthful. Tell him, "go left" or "a little harder," whatever it is you are desiring. He'll get there It doesn't have to be a sit down conversation - I'd actually find that really odd. Just guide him as he's going.

I'm not very experienced in this area (I've never done more than kiss someone), but I agree with DefyingGravity! You'll both keep learning as time goes on; and since you mentioned that he's inexperienced, it may take him a little longer than it takes you. Good luck!

P.S. I don't think it would be a bad thing to have a conversation with him about it, especially if you guys have been dating for a good amount of time.

If you know your body and what you like then it should be easy to guide him. When you are thinking 'it would be good if he...'' then you just tell him 'it would be good if you' and he will do it. No need to have a huge conversation about him unless he never ever listens to what you say or doesn't try to do things that you like.

If you don't know your body and you still don't know HOW he can pleasure you then you will just have to practice until it gets better and you know your body more.

Nobody likes the same exact thing so you will just have to tell him what you like as it goes on.