So, I went to an all girls high school for 4 years before entering a large (40,000) University co-ed setting. In the classroom I've adjusted from an all girls setting to a co-ed one, but when it comes to actual social situations, I seem to be a bit behind. A group of my friends from high school also came to the same college and are often hooking up, having sex etc, while I haven't even been kissed or on a date. I'm 20 years old and I just don't have the same skills when it comes to understanding when a boys is interested or hook up culture. Any advice from someone who has been in a similar situation? It's getting to a point where it's just embarrassing.

First of all, don't think that hooking up is the great thing to do. It can lead to many problems and lots of disappointment. The best advice I can give you is to put yourself out there. The more things you're involved in, the more people you meet. And don't be embarassed...be confident! Guys find confidence attractive Sometimes YOU may have to make the first move and ask if the guy wants to hang out or meet for coffee or whatever. But don't let your goal be hooking up to catch up with your friends; let it be to date and have fun and figure out what you're looking for in a guy, since you're rather new at this.

Hope I helped! Good luck!

Love is not a competition!

I'm not a sexual person myself, but I have had the odd boyfriend. That said, if love was a competition, I'd be dead-last for the rest of my life, I think.

As KODancer94 said, confidence is key. Guys like girls who are confident and happy with themselves. That doesn't mean you have to dress slutty and absolutely throw yourself at anything that has a Y chromosome -- if anything you'll get kissed and laid for all the wrong reasons.

I think you should go out a bit, to places where you enjoy being (chances are that the guys you meet there share your taste, at least on this first topic), dressed in attractive comfortable clothes. Sure, dress up a little, it's a party, but be comfy in how you look. And when a guy comes over for a chat, smile and be open to the occasion; he probably saw something in you that he likes. It's a fun game, just make sure you don't force yourself to play by other people's rules.