I would NEVER want someone to marry me if the reason behind it was essentially boiled down to "because it's harder for you to leave."

Yeah that is what the gist of that post was. *head desk* For someone that makes a lot of well written posts it always surprises me when you write something like that.

I hate to pull the "if you haven't been married" card, but some of us have actually been on both sides of the coin and have experience with being married and not. Somehow I think that has a lot of validity over someone that has an opinion of what marriage is or feels like.

anonymous wrote:

Heart wrote:

A married person can just pick up and bounce as easily as anyone else on the planet can. Might be tied up in court for a bit, but so what, have a lawyer handle it; anyone can turn around and walk out of your life on a dime. If you haven't seen that happen you just haven't been around enough crappy people.

Someone needs to let my mother in law know that, because she's just spent the last 7 years in court trying to get a property settlement so that she can get a divorce. Now that the property settlement is sorted, she can finally move on to the actual divorce. Life isn't a movie. It's not just as easy as "Okay, I'm done. Here, sign the papers."

In court. I would certainly hope they weren't living together like a married couple during that time.

If someone wants to bounce, they will bounce. They'll show up for court dates, sure, but it's not like they're pulling 50% of the housework at the same time. You might be married on paper, but you're certainly not living like a married couple. Just because you were going through a divorce for five years doesn't mean you were "married" for those five years, in the entirety of the term.



If that wasn't the gist of the post then explain it better. That's what it said. Everyone else did, which is why I didn't touch their posts.

^Are you serious? They weren't living together while they settled their property, and therefore it's obviously just as easy to divorce as it is to break up?

My husband's parents are still legally married, despite my mother-in-law having a protection order against her husband. You are legally married until you divorce, whether you live together or not.

What Heart is saying is that it's as easy to shirk your responsibilities when you're married as when you're not. While you may be legally married, you're not there helping pay the bills and raise the kids and clean all the things. Seriously, reading comprehension!?

Erin.
::righteous babe::