I know this is no big deal to be written under the anonymous mask, but I feel a lot more comfortable as I have other friends who also use this website.

As a disclaimer, I'm on my 20's and have been on other relationships before... I just need someone to slack me some sense here, as I am positively sure that my pill is causing me to become extra-paranoid.

That said, here's the situation: Me and a friend from college have started to have ''something'' a couple months ago. Whereas they were casual encounters, (most of them when all of our friends were around also) and definitelt nothing serious, they were very, very nice and we did have a great time together.

We were getting along and fine, and dealing with the situation fairly well, as we have to see each other daily due to college.

However, during the break, he traveled for like a month. Alright then.

Then he came back, and everybody from my classroom started planning to attend this concert in my town. Both of us were invited.

So, on the very day it happened, he picked me up in my house, we went on to grab some dinner and then to the concert with everyone else.

We were having an amazing time together, but nothing else besides talking happened.

After the concert ended, he dropped me off in my house, and well, I tried to kiss him, as we had had a great time together, and well, just as it was happening before he went off on his trip. Turns out he acted extremely weirdly, by turning his face off, and by saying goodbye to me repeatedly as if he wanted me to get off his car as soon as possible.

I felt TERRIBLE afterwards, and incredibly embarassed. I had no idea what to do, so, on the next day, I left him a message on facebook saying that I didn't want us to be in an awkward situation, wondering if he was into talking a little bit about it. Well. It took him almost four days to reply me, and he replied that he would definitely want to talk to me, but nothing else besides that.

I am REALLY confused at the moment. I really don't get what happened (though I obviously have some ideas, one of them being the fact that he has just recently ended a long relationship). I thought that maybe talking to him would be a good solution as that would refrain me from making up crazy stuff on my mind... it would be a good way to clear things up between us. But honestly, I don't know. Did I do something really wrong in here? I'm very paranoid at the moment wondering if our relationship, as friends, is doomed. I've always been aware to the potential risk we were presenting ourselves into everytime we'd make out. I have not fallen for him or anything, I just want to go back as it was before. Am I being ridiculously naive? Were my attitudes wrong?

Thanks a lot for reading all this, and I guess I'm just looking for some different point of views.

It's not such a big dramatic situation: you thought that you were catching romantic vibes and tried to reciprocated...and then found out that he wasn't on the same page. However, before I let you know how I"d respond, could you be more specific. You're so scared of actually putting words to what happened that it's really confusing.

A couple months ago, you started "something", having casual encounters. Do you mean that you started talking seriously? Flirting? Kissing? Making out? Sexual interactions?

We started making out, actually.

The idea was not to show something romantic was going on as I just tried to make out with him like every other time it happened...

I never wanted to send him this vibe, as it was ok the way it was and it's not that I fell for him or anything like that... I just wanted to make out with him because it was being nice lol

At the moment, I'm confused at what's gonna happen next, and I don't really know how to start this conversation with him... Just want to understand what's going on and make sure we are aware of what we feel for each other.

In that case, I'd send a message telling him that you've noticed that he wasn't up for the same kind of involvement you used to have since he's been back, and that if he wants to be just friends again that you're fine with that...you just need him to let you know what's up.

Two things that come to mind is:
1) He may have found smoe romantic interest while he was away and feels weird about kissing since or
2) He thinks you've started to read more into it than him and started to freak him out.

Either way, word it in whatever calm-careless style you usually would and basically say "I'm up for whatever, just let me know so we don't get awkwardness like we did after the concert."

Thanks, AlwaysOnStage, that does make a lot of sense.

When he replied that we agreed on talking to me, I said that we could talk next time we saw each other and made a random comment on something else mostly to try to make it feel less awkward, but he didn't really get back at me. At this point, I wonder if I should have just let it go (as in - pretending nothing happened and act normally afterwards) instead of telling him I wanted to talk. I'm afraid that this could also have scared him out.

Sorry guys, I'm just very paranoid about the situation because I didn't really wanted to change our friendship from the beginning, I really thought the making-out thing would be easy to be dealt with.

I think that now, since you've told him you want him to talk to you, until he gets back to you, then go ahead and assume that you two are fine as friends but anything further is here-on-out inappropriate. Go with the "ball's in his court" philosophy.

I think he's probably just worried that you have feelings for him or don't want to go back to just being friends, and that's why he's being awkward. If you tell him "Look, I'm on the same page as you, I want to go back to being just friends. I hope we can do that" he'll probably be relieved and start acting more normal again.