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re: Planting an Appleseed (karma: 1)
By Tishwah Comments: 586, member since Sun May 17, 2009
On Mon Jun 22, 2015 04:24 AM
I am with M on the subject of pants!
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Mon Jun 29, 2015 06:45 PM
Edited by Caffeine (183827) on 2015-06-29 19:35:33 blech
18w1d. (Otherwise known as "And so begins the pregnancy countdown")
Bub has been fairly active lately, and I was able to feel it from the outside last night. Of course, as soon as N put his hand on my belly, it stopped playing, just like M did. He'll feel it soon enough.

It's funny - I'm trying so hard to hide this pregnancy at work. I don't know why. Outside of work, I'm happy to let the belly flaunt itself, but at work? Artfully draped scarves and loose tops are my friends. I've told my boss, my quasi-boss and my overall-boss, but no-one else. It's not a secret (the further along I get the more obvious it is becoming), but it's not something I'm shouting from the rooftops, either.

We put the carseat for this one on laybuy yesterday. We decided to get the same one we've had for M, as it converts from a rear-facing capsule to a big-kids booster. And we know how it works, which is always a bonus. I've actually bought very few things for this baby: A few summer-weight swaddles, a baby record book and now the car seat. I know we have all of M's hand-me-downs, but I thought I'd have got a few more odds and ends by now. I guess once I sort out the baby clothes properly I'll know what I have and what I still need to buy.

M is a budding 'street artist'. Over summer, I put washable paint into spray bottles, and let him go nuts on huge sheets of paper. Sounds good, doesn't it? His first spraybottle artwork is prominently displayed on the wall in the sunroom. This weekend just gone, he got the bug to do more spray painting, but rather than work on the paper, he spent the time 'tagging' the house, the fence, the garage, himself, me, all in yellow paint. I wised up the following day, and let him "play" with the hose and a scrubbing brush to wash off the worst of it after the paint ran out. Is it really a chore if he has fun doing it?

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BTW, morning sickness can GTFO. I had a brief reprieve between 16 and 18 weeks, then whammo! back to square one. So over it. I'm living on peppermint tea at the moment.
re: Planting an Appleseed
By Tishwah Comments: 586, member since Sun May 17, 2009
On Mon Jun 29, 2015 09:46 PM
Our budding little graffiti artist :D

I have a friend who just didn't tell anyone at work she was pregnant (apart from her boss, HR etc) and waited to see how long before anyone worked it out. Someone finally asked about three weeks before she went on maternity leave.
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Sun Jul 05, 2015 06:10 AM
You should have seen the look of pure unadulterated joy on his face when he was let loose with the spray bottle. And then when the HOSE came out too -in the middle of winter, no less! Kid heaven!

I think that's sort of what I'm doing at work (albeit unintentionally). I guess I just don't know these people well enough to say anything. Nobody has commented so far, but they may just be too polite to say "Hey, you're getting fat". :) Unfortunately most of my maternity work-wardrobe from last time included fitted jumpers and tops, which I don't really want to wear yet. Do you know how many department stores DON'T have maternity sections these days? (And going a size up in normal clothes is just wrong for me. They simply don't fit across the shoulders, bust and length!)

Thinking about it properly, in a random stream-of-consciousnes sort of way, I'm keeping this pregnancy pretty quiet all round. Yes, I've announced, and yes I wear more fitted things outside of work, but still keeping it very much on the down-low. I wonder if I'm hesitant to let myself get properly excited about it in case something goes wrong? (After all, we thought the Mole was fine, then the rug was pulled out from under us there..) Or maybe it's the online mothers group all due in the same months are all a few weeks further along than I am, so by the time I get to [milestone/scan/whatever] they're all onto the next thing and have a "been there done that" attitude to those of us due at the end of the month? Or maybe I'm just sensitive and reading things that aren't there.

Pregnant insomniatic late night musings are interesting.

M has been sick this weekend. Fine on Friday, then hit by a steamroller Saturday morning. Came downstairs for his usual morning cuddles, and promptly passed out for another three hours. Then was unwell. In our bed. You could have fried an egg at five paces from him last night, his fever was that bad. He's now asleep in our bed, and it looks like his raging fever has broken and he's sleeping peacefully. I don't like it when he's sick and I can't make him better.
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Tue Jul 07, 2015 11:36 PM
Kids are germ-factories.

M has given me his bug with a vengeance. It's all right for him, because he can take over-the-counter medicines for it, but I have to suffer with trying to cough up a lung until the worst of it is over.

I valiantly tried to make it in to work yesterday, but ended up turning around 3/4 of the way in and passing out in bed for four and a half hours instead.

Blah. My chest feels shredded, my hips are aching and my beain has been bouncing like crazy from coughing so much. And there are only so many warm beverages with honey one can stomach...
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Fri Jul 10, 2015 06:08 AM
A week or so ago, I got a message from an in-law relative (cousin of a cousin sort of things), asking if I was interested in having a student midwife join me on this pregnancy journey.

I figure: why not? They need training, I get the continuity of care between my OB and the midwife - win/win all round as far as I'm concerned. I also broached the topic with SiL-C, in case she wanted additional support.

We met Midwife today. She seems really lovely. Gave us information on the program as sponsored by her university, we chatted about her career, my past pregnancies, C's experiences to date with her pregnancy, birth plans and so on.

Midwife was very clear that she will only be as hands-on as we are comfortable with (and the OB/midwife team in attendance will let her), but as far as I am concerned, she can poke and prod me to her hearts content. There have been so many different doctors/specialists/medical teams poking me over the years, that what's one more? If she can learn a bit more about different bodies/presentations/births etc from being hands-on with me, then it's all for the good. :)

(PS: still sick. I finally caved and got the script for antibiotics filled, because I'm sick of being so sick and sore. Feels like a whopper combination of chest/throat/ear infections all at once, and of course there's nothing OTC I can take to ease the symptoms. Steam, honey and salt water gargles can only do so much. Blah.)
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Fri Jul 17, 2015 09:16 PM
OMG, I don't think I have ever - without hyperbole or exaggeration - EVER been as sick as I have this past week.

On top of the rotten bug M gave me which left me bedridden and off work for three days and doesn't seem to be shifting, I've been unable to keep anything down since, oh, Tuesday (for the record, it's now Saturday midday here). I am actually a kilo or two below my pre-preg weight now.

And of course, we had gone away from Mon-Thurs, so we spent our 'holiday' sick, miserable, cold (we lost power one freezing night) and out of touch with civilisation.

I saw my OB yesterday - to go over the 20 week scan and find out why I'm so darn sick. Scan is all good, bub is happily kicking along as it should, placenta is out of the way and all is perfect.

As for the constant voms, OB suspects gastro. I disagree with his diagnosis, actually. I suspect it's more to do with how my body fights bad infections: when I was a kid, the only way I could get over a bad cold/bronchitis/what-have-you was to throw up until my body 'purged' itself of the bug. (Most people grow out of this after infancy. I never did.) As this is a pretty nasty bug anyway and I'm somewhat immune-suppressed at the moment, my body is just trying to do what it can to kill the bug.

Either way though - gastro or body's defense mechanism - they're not to fussed about the lack of food as baby will be taking all of my reserves. As long as I stay hydrated, I'm all good. And if I don't, they'll whisk me off to hospital for intravenous fluids until I'm more normal.

I'm so sick of water and hydration fluids, though. They're all so sickly sweet and vile, and I just want real food. I've tempted fate with a piece of toast, but it may not last...
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Sat Jul 18, 2015 10:48 PM
Oh, and on top of EVERYTHING, I think I've broken a rib from coughing so much.

My body hates me.

On the positive side, M is just about over the bug, so he's got a ton of energy once more. Now if only I could say the same...
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Thu Jul 23, 2015 06:20 AM
In case anybody is actually following this, here's an update. My body still officially hates me, but I'm FINALLY through the worst of this bug and allowed to go back to work next week. Three weeks off sick? I've NEVER had that before in my life!

But because life isn't meant to be easy, my body has thrown in a weird rash on top of everything else. We've done a blood test to rule out cholestasis of pregnancy (aka: horrible liver/bile condition that causes a rash in mum but could have terrible consequences for baby) or if it's the more harmless prurigo of pregnancy (aka: annoying rash that's just annoying) instead.

So to recap, in the past three weeks I've:
* been bedridden with a severe viral illness
* lost 4kgs through vomiting and being unable to keep anything down except water
* been threatened with hospitalisation
* done a rib from the coughing
* developed a fun pregnancy rash

On the positive side, though, bubs is super active at the moment. M likes putting his head on my tummy to 'hear' bubs gurgle and wants to look through my belly button to see baby. I think it's currently mooning the world, because I can feel its back as a funny hard ridge beside my belly button.

This has been a tough pregnancy to date. I only hope the next 15-20 weeks (eeek!) are much easier than the first 21 weeks have been...
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Fri Jul 24, 2015 06:34 AM
And the dramz continues.

Somehow my phone was in a spot in my bag where I simply never heard it all when we were at the shops, and I missed 5 increasingly urgent phone calls (and two on the house landline) from my GP's office. They finally got through to me via N's phone. Blood test results showed increased, abnormal liver function. Get thee to your OB's office NOW.

SO rather than head home with a carload of shopping we dutifully trekked across town to the OB's office (because when you find a good doctor, you follow him when he moves clinics!) where an emergency appointment had been made for me.

And we waited. M was SO very good in the waiting room, despite being short-changed a nap, bored and hungry. He was truly, truly golden while we waited.

When it was finally my turn, I told the OB "in my own words" what the situation was. He made noted, hummed and hah-ed, then leaned forward across his desk and said in a stage whisper: "I think your GP overreated."

See, apparently the elevated levels could be due to simply recovering from being ill. Or it could be the start of cholestasis. The levels were above normal, yes, but at this point not worryingly high. But to make sure we do rule anything nasty out, he's ordered another couple of rounds of thorough blood tests to find out what's going on. If things keep going up, we have a problem, but there's nothing to be done save monitoring until 30 weeks anyway. If they drop, we're all fine.

So much for a normal, easy pregnancy like I had with M, eh?
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Mon Aug 10, 2015 07:21 PM
All blood tests came back normal, which is a huge relief. Interestingly, this bug has gone through the whole family, and my FiL has had the same symptoms as I did, right down to the wonky liver. That's one nasty bug...

But we're all on the mend now.

M has surprised us all by going through another developmental leap when we weren't watching, expanding his language, sense of humour and empathy in leaps and bounds. Big bear hugs, fart jokes and misdirection ("look over there! aaw, too slow!") are highly popular.

I don't know when kids usually start doing this, but he can now think of other words that mean the same, or similar, thing to what he's trying to say. He was talking about reflections the other day, and I had my mind on other things and didn't her clearly what he was saying. "Reflection," he said. Then he paused for a moment before continuing, "Like a shadow". Smart cookie. :)

We have our good days and our grumpy nothing-goes-right days. M is trying to be a big kid by picking on his younger cousin (and I suspect it's stuff he's picking up from kids with older siblings at daycare), but we're working on it. Mum-reflexes are getting a good workout as he tries to hit me, too. But he's nearly three, and I'm sure some of the behaviour is because he's nearly three. If he's good in public (which he is), we can work on the rattiness at home.

The baby is super active. Either I'm so exhausted at the end of the day that I don't wake up to bladder soccer or it's actually keeping civilised hours: from the moment I wake up to just after I go to bed, it's one squirmy party in there. Morning sickness has finally stopped, but instead we get braxton hicks (which feel so different to when I had M - his were all back pain; this is like 'OMG, I'm about to start my period!') and reflux. Cannot win!

Can't believe I'm 24 weeks already. It's gone so fast. And I've only got 10 more weeks at work. At 3 days per week, that's only 30 days. All my forms are in and sorted (and I presume, approved!), just counting down the time, now. I'm starting mat leave sooner than I wanted, but there was a hiccup with leave that needed to be taken, so I'll be off from 34 weeks, rather than 36. 10 weeks to go...
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Wed Aug 26, 2015 01:09 AM
26+2

It's funny reading back the posts from when I was pregnant with M.

I've taken a belly comparison shots to see how big this one is compared to last time. While I LOOK a similar size, I feel so much smaller than I was with M. Or maybe it's just that I know how big I am going to get that I'm not to fussed by the mid-size belly.
Image hotlink - 'http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v655/aragwinity/262compare_zpsrds8vvsl.jpg'

As with M at the same 'age', this baby is sitting quite low, and feels like it's neatly tucked in between my hipbones (aka playing elastics with my underwear line). Instead of M's favourite game of bladder soccer, it seems to be using my cervix as a pogo stick. OW!!!

Pelvic instability (or whatever it's called these days) is still playing havoc on my body, and this time round I've invested in a set of the support shorts. But there's something not quite right about them: I don't know why but they keep falling down! Most awkward in the middle of the supermarket. I try not to wear them all the time, as I figure while they're supporting my joints and ligaments, they're not actually training my body to do it itself. But when I don't wear it, I hurt. As with last time, though, if I move around, it eases off - it's only if I stay in one position too long (like all day at work or the 90 minute train ride) that it really flares up.

I've joined a "mother's group" so to speak, on facebook, for mums in my area due in November. There was a meetup scheduled for the weekend just gone, and with trepidation little introverted me went to meet these complete strangers and talk about the fun ickyness of pregnancy.

Ha! As it turned out, the hostess and I were the only ones there. The rest bailed at the last minute. :( But the hostess was lovely and we clicked over tea and scones and lamingtons. I felt bad for her that nobody else showed up, but I hope she liked me!

M is his usual effervescent self. He had a blast over the past few weeks when my mum came to stay (N was on placement, and I couldn't take time off work), but he does have a bad habit of getting up before dawn. Damn body clock set to "sparrow". His current favourite game is racing his big toy trucks around the house, and skidding on his knees. And turning anything (sticks, etc!) into a toy gun. Boys will be boys, I guess!
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Sat Aug 29, 2015 12:31 AM
We're coming into a full moon again, aren't we? Because my threenager just ran with freaking scissors.

I suppose it beats dancing naked under the moonlight, but not by much...
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Wed Sep 02, 2015 11:04 PM
And here we have another turn for the "interesting" courtesy of this pregnancy.

I had my Glucose tolerance Test on Monday just gone. The oh-so-fun test where you fast, have a ton of blood tests done, drink something that tastes like flat lemonate and wait around for a couple of hours, periodically getting more blood drawn.

I had a missed call on Tuesday from my GP's office wanting to talk about the results, but when I called them back, they just said to talk to the OB.

OB's office called this afternoon.

Firstly, my iron levels are way, WAY low. As in I'm so anaemic it's a wonder I'm still functioning sort of low. The recommended base rate is 25 or higher; mine is less than 5. No wonder I'm so tired! They've been in contact with the hospital, and I will be receiving a call at some stage about when I've been booked in to get an iron infusion.

Then they spoke about the glucose test. Apparently even though the bloods taken after the glucose drink were perfect, my fasting glucose levels were a whisker above the Gestational Diabetes cut-off. Which means they have to treat me for GD. Referral to an endocrinologist and a couple of months of testing my blood sugar levels, here we come!

The midwife did reassure me that it's nothing I've done. Given I didn't have GD with M, and there is no family history of diabetes, it's just a random quirk of this pregnancy, triggered by the pregnancy hormones going wacko.

Honestly, if there is anything that can go out of whack and still be considered "healthy" during this pregnancy, it'll happen. Bring on November!
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Sun Sep 06, 2015 05:24 AM
I had planned to spend my Friday the same way I usually do: swimming with M, then lunch, nap, and playing in the backyard all afternoon.

Did it happen? Nooo. Following on from Thursday's phonecalls from the midwife, I had calls from the local oncology centre because my iron infusion had to be booked in TODAY. And then to-ing and fro-ing with an endocrinologist because dates/numbers/etc meant they wanted to see me TODAY.

So at 11:30 I had booked a 12pm appointment on the other side of town and a 2pm infusion back near home. And was frantically trying to figure out what to do with M . Fortunately my MiL was able to take him on extreme short notice (I don't think he'd appreciate trekking around to hospitals and doctors offices all day!).

The endocrinologist doesn't think I have Gestational Diabetes, because aside from my fasting blood sugar levels being skewy (thank you pasta for dinner the night before), everything else was spot on perfect. Reassurring, but a waste of time! I have to redo the Glucose Tolerance Test tomorrow morning to definitively rule out GD. (Unfortunately I didn't think and had pasta - albeit a tiny serve - again for dinner!)

From the endocrinologist, to my hospitals oncology ward for the iron infusion.
Image hotlink - 'http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v655/aragwinity/iron_zpsl69gafzr.jpg'
For some reason I thought it'd kick in pretty fast and I'd have more energy - in reality I feel more tired and run down than I did before! But we shall see over the next few days.
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Wed Sep 16, 2015 05:47 PM
I had my 28 week checkup last week.

Firstly, I re-did the GD test, and passed with flying colours. The blip that sent everyone into a tailspin was simply due to having pasta for dinner the night before. Damn those low GI, slow-release carbs! As for the iron, in my OB's words: "You had NO iron in your system, young lady!" and he freaked out the hospital pharmacist with the strength of the dosage ordered for the infusion. I'm to go back and get more bloods done in a couple of weeks, in the hopes that I'm retaining what iron was put back in. We shall see.

Apparently bub is low because my pelvic floor is pretty much shot from having M. And from coughing so much. Kegels, kegels kegels!

Speaking of coughing, remember how back in July I injured a rib from coughing so much? It took its sweet time healing (as ribs are wont to do), and had only just got better when I caught another terrible cough. And guess what I've done again? Yup, there goes that rib once more. I have no idea if it's broken, cracked, bruised, muscular, or what, just that it hurts so very much to breathe, to move, to cough, laugh or sneeze. Never thought I'd be glad bub is playing with my cervix - at least it is staying away from my rib!

I have three more weeks to go at work. It's come about so fast!

M seems to be still thinking of baby as an abstract concept, not really real yet. Some days he likes putting his head or his hand on my belly to feel baby move, but other days his attitude is a whole lot of "whatever". I guess that's threenagers, for you.

We're starting the process of potty training him, and he's quite proud of his big-boy undies. It's a slow process (those people who claim they can do it in three days either have nothing else to do with their time or are putting a crapton of pressure on their kiddos), but we're getting there. Octonaut-figurine bribes help. :D

I can't believe his birthday is next week, and he will be three already. Where has my little baby gone? We're just going to have a family BBQ in the backyard this time round. Nothing big. And M has requested a Bob the Builder cake. That's going to be tricky, but I can do it. I hope!
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Sat Sep 26, 2015 06:42 AM
M is 3. Three. How did my baby grow up so fast?

He had a blast on Thursday - despite getting up at the crack of dawn ("It's my birthday. I'm three!") - and loved the toys we bought him. We kept it low-key on the actual day because he had daycare, and I had work, and we're having a family party this weekend to make up for it.

He is mad about the Octonauts at the moment, and so I decided to make him a Captain Barnacles cake. (At least that is easier than the Bob the Builder he had originally wanted!) I was going to make and decorate it after he'd gone to bed, but I'm glad I didn't in the end - even if it was more challenging having a 3yo 'assist'! - because he saw his mummy making the special cake he wanted, just for him. And his face just lit up when he saw the finished product:
Image hotlink - 'http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v655/aragwinity/barnacles%20cake_zpsxvzdrri0.jpg'

Tomorrow I'll work on decorating, putting up bunting, etc.

This lingering cough I've had for weeks now just. won't. go. My ribs were healing, but due to coughing so hard I threw up, burst blood vessels around my eyes (again) and gave myself a blood nose, they've had a bit of setback. I can barely hold M, let alone do simple things like straighten the bed or breathe deeply. I don't like telling him "Mummy can't lie down for cuddles because she's sore", but it's true - hurts like a mother. :( Hopefully they'll settle down again soon, but in the meantime we'll just have snuggle on the couch with books or something instead.

Looking forward to being able to get on the floor and play with him again, rather than being sore or stuck like a turtle on its back when trying to get back up!
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Sun Sep 27, 2015 11:29 PM
We had M's party yesterday, and a good time was had by all. Bubbles and BBQ and trucks and cake - all the good stuff little boys love. He LOVED his Barnacles cake, and was thoroughly spoiled by family. Octonauts and gigantic trucks for the win!

Unfortunately, M has essentially given himself a post-party hangover from eating so much junk yesterday. All he wants to do is curl up on the couch with movies and try not to be sick, and I'm onto my 6th load of washing already. Doesn't want to eat, doesn't even want to play with his new toys, he just wants a day to recover.

Don't blame him, really - it was a mad, mad day, even though we'd planned it to be low-key, family only!
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Mon Oct 12, 2015 07:39 PM



33+2 weeks. Two more working days to go.

I got all nesty and tackled the nursery on the weekend. Sorted out all M's old stuff, bagged and tagged his old clothes by size for future reference, washed clothes for the new baby, aired out the mattress, packed baby's hospital bag, thought about packing mine (eh, it'll happen when it happens) and generally Got Stuff Done.

There is still a ton of stuff I need to do in there, but I've at least made a start and made the room habitable once more.

This weekend there is a baby expo and SiL-C's baby shower, so it's a write-off. Going to be fun waddling round the expo with a ton of other pregnant ladies, but nevermind, should be a cheap day out because I have everything I need already.

Bub has seriously dropped. Kicking up a storm, and generally having far too much fun than is good for it with my cervix. I had a 'vanity' 3D ultrasound last weekend, and the cheeky little munchkin kept hiding. One of the few shots we got of its face it stuck its tongue out and GRINNED at us. No joke. This is going to be another troublemaker!

M has been pretty good with the whole impending-baby thing. He likes listening to my tummy (baby plays hide and seek so he hasn't felt it yet), or taking photos through my belly button with his toy camera. The other day he had a tape measure and was sitting on my legs measuring my belly. So adorable. <3 He's been asking tons of questions, too, which we're trying to answer in an age-appropriate manner.

I guess it helps that SiL-J had her baby two weeks ago. He's really gentle with his new little cousin, which is wonderful, and hopefully augurs well for his sibling!
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Sun Oct 18, 2015 11:14 PM
34 weeks.

Feeling melancholy.

This time last year we lost our second child. Who knows what direction our lives would have taken if things had turned out differently? It's not something I dwell on, but I think October is going to be a hard month forever now.

Doesn't help that the anniversary of that loss is the same anniversary of the passing of a friend's child (she lost him at 27 weeks). It's hard to distract oneself with social media and cat memes when lengthy posts about her loss pop up in the news feed.

And most of my friends just don't get it.

So, melancholy. Put on a brave face for friends' baby showers and other social activities, but quite frankly I'd rather be a hermit.

Actually, this is something I've noticed a lot with this pregnancy - I don't know if it's because I've been so busy with work and home, or my friends are at a different stage of life, or what, but I just don't want to keep putting on that mask of happiness. I don't want to be nice to people anymore.

But we humans are social creatures, so one must suck up one's feelings and deal with it, whether we want to or not. This is all probably pregnancy hormones, anyway.

Baby is doing well - squirming like crazy and making a nuisance of itself on my cervix; M is good, although somewhat possessive of stuff he had as a baby, even if he has outgrown it. That's going to be the tricky part - reassurring him he still has HIS stuff while letting the baby have his hand-me-downs. And reminding him that no matter what, he will always be my special boy.
re: Planting an Appleseed
By Theresamember has saluted, click to view salute photosPremium member Comments: 34891, member since Wed May 22, 2002
On Tue Oct 20, 2015 11:07 AM
Go with the classic - "That was yours, when you were a baby! Now you're a big boy, so you have [insert similar object], and we're going to give [brother/sister] this, because s/he is not as big of a boy as you!" Make him sound awesome! And I'm sure there's some weirdness on M's part, because he's seeing a lot of preparation going in to the little one, and feeling lost. Can he help? Even if you have to go back and fix whatever he did later, if he feels more like an active participant, it'll be better. :)
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Tue Oct 20, 2015 05:52 PM
I've tried that.
"This was yours when you were a baby, but you're such a big boy now, you have [favourite toys]! Do you think we can let the new baby borrow this?"
"No! I'm a baby, not a big boy! This is mine! Buy a new [x] for baby!"

I have been trying to reassure him that he will always be my special boy, no matter what, and that nothing will change how much I love him, but I guess it's tough being a 3yo and getting swept along in the prep for the new baby. I was going to sit down with a box of old toys and see if he can let baby "borrow" them, but I suspect that's not going to work.

I fully expected him to regress somewhat when the baby came, but I think it's hit him a bit sooner. Doesn't help that his childcare have moved him up to the Pre-Kinder room, so he's the littlest in his new class. There are lot of big changes for a little kid to deal with.

I do have plans to get him to help me make a mobile for baby, though. I have the frame, and a die cutter. He is always at me to let him use the cutter, so I will get cardstock, and we'll have a fun morning cutting out leaves and birds and stuff together. And I have a present 'from' the baby for him, already.

I've seen him interact with tiny babies (my SiL had a baby the day after his party), and he is golden with them - so gentle and quiet! But they can be handed back, not taking over HIS old bedroom or being held by HIS mum. It's going to be a tricky balancing act, giving him the love and attention he needs while attending to the new baby.
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Mon Oct 26, 2015 04:49 AM
35 Weeks.

Feels like bub has gone posterior, as all my Braxton-Hickses have been in my back since Friday. I don't really mind, actually, as I know what back labour is like and I know I can deal with it. 'Normal' labour, thats the unknown...

Had a brief stint of bub being head-up-bum-down on the weekend (hiccups under the ribs feel weird after having them so low for the majority of the pregnancy), but it feels like its righted itself once more - must have a ton of fluid in there to allow for the acrobatics. Best thing about it being the wrong way was my cervix had a break from being headbutted!

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Lost a good chunk of the mucus plug this arvo, and been as sick as the proverbial dog all day too. (Seriously, can I have *one* trimester where I am not driving the porcelain bus?) Doubt it's anything major, but worth documenting, just in case.

5 weeks to go, give or take. Should probably finish packing that bag...
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Wed Oct 28, 2015 04:12 AM
According to a random stranger, my belly is "tiny". Really? I mean - REALLY?!
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I think I look every day of 35+2 weeks pregnant.

Today's OB appointment went well. Still ticking along with 30/11 as eviction date, but we'll see what happens. I just wish this baby wouldn't sit so low! Taking M to daycare this morning, I had to stop every three steps because it hurt so friggin' much!

Speaking of M, he's been sick again. Doctor said it's just a non-specific virus, so we're managing. Yesterday was a fun day of fever spikes and limpet-mode all day, but after a rough night, he seemed much, much better this morning. Cheerful, hungry, normal temperature, fine to go to school. He was sent home at lunchtime because he spiked again. And then spent the afternoon (once the paracetamol kicked in), running around at home, hyper. I swear that kid wasn't really sick, he just plotted to make his temperature spike just so he could come home...
re: Planting an Appleseed
By CaffeinePremium member Comments: 3194, member since Wed Aug 08, 2007
On Sun Nov 08, 2015 04:07 AM
37 weeks tomorrow. I am officially Over It.

I think baby is using the umbilical cord as a bungee cord instead because it keeps engaging then sitting high then dropping and going back up and dropping again. Never know from one day - one hour! - to the next where it will be. And of course, the more it bungees, the more it triggers those oh-so-fun Braxton-Hickses. It seems when I'm not chasing around a 3yo, I'm either on the bed napping, or curled up waiting for the BH's to pass so I can function. I don't remember being this tired with M.

OB reckons it will be smaller than M was, so we shall see. If I prepare for a 9-lber, anything smaller will be a breeze! ;)

As with last time, however, I've hit the isolated-and-lonely stage. Forgive my overtired and hormonal ramblings below.
I'm part of a few online mum's groups, with women all due in November, but due to a rush of inductions and other circumstances, there has been a flood of babies already, and it is quite clear that those of us due at the end of the month have nothing of value to contribute because we don't have our babies out yet.

And given how close the due dates are for SiL-C and me (10 days!), I thought we'd have grown closer and shared the experience. But instead she texts N to find out information about my pregnancies ("is X normal? what did Caffeine do last time?" etc). Most contact we've had has been thanks to me initiating: offering stuff I've got surplus of, or don't need because I didn't use last time etc.

So once more going it alone. If we have this baby before C has hers, it will be the Ultimate Middle Child, and always looked over in favour of SiL-J's (3 months older) or C's (younger). If we have it last, well, the attention will always be on C's child. I know for a fact N's parents show favoritism towards J's oldest, S, to the detriment of M, and it drives me mental. And I know I'm being judged for how I parent my energetic boy. It's just going to get magnified when there is a new baby in the picture, too. Still, we soldier on and put on a neutral face and let it roll right off us, because what is the alternative?

Speaking of M, he is as mercurial as a threenager can be. One moment cuddling into me and blowing raspberries on my tummy to make baby move; the next a small screaming tornado with selective deafness. We had some fun looking up info about native bees today before he had an epic Chernobyl-style overtired meltdown. This is what happens when you don't nap, kiddo. If you slept later than sunrise, I'd let you phase them out, but getting up with the dawn chorus and protesting naps means you simply aren't getting as much sleep as you need!
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